Pro-Tip: Do not be shocked if they project their own issues onto you! Cheaters are not very good at owning their own behaviors. But they do excel at blaming others for their misdeeds. So, it should come as no surprise that the “sins” or “misdeeds” that they accused their spouses of are likely the misdeeds … Continue reading “Pro-Tip: Cheaters might just be projecting onto you!”
Brandon Hatmaker Speaks Out Re: Divorce from Jen Hatmaker
(Video as context for the written response from Jen Hatmaker’s ex-husband, Brandon Hatmaker.) Brandon Hatmaker writes his own response to Jen Hatmaker’s memoir, Awake. He wrote, “We are all bigger than our lowest moment: Here are five things I’d like to offer perspective on…” on September 22, 2025. In this, Brandon Hatmaker claims to be … Continue reading “Brandon Hatmaker Speaks Out Re: Divorce from Jen Hatmaker”
Kingdom Incompatibility
How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness? -2 Corinthians 6:14b, NLT Cheaters have declared allegiance to the Kingdom of Darkness by their choices and actions. They speak in the language of their chosen kingdom–i.e. lies–and they choose to walk in darkness instead of light. This is the fundamental … Continue reading “Kingdom Incompatibility”
Such a sucker punch!
His family all tried to comfort him, but he refused to be comforted. “I will go to my grave mourning for my son,” he would say, and then he would weep. -Genesis 37:35, NLT Out of nowhere. That is how grief works sometimes. It reminds us of the loss even when we thought we were … Continue reading “Such a sucker punch!”
Do not let them rile you up too much!
If you live without restraint and are unable to control your temper, you’re as helpless as a city with broken-down defenses, open to attack. -Proverbs 25:28, TPT Boy, this is a hard one to learn. Cheaters seemed skilled at needling their partner just where they are the most vulnerable. It might be over their “manhood” … Continue reading “Do not let them rile you up too much!”
Taking on too much!
I took on way too much blame in my first marriage. It was a symptom of my desire to “save” it. I was desperate to keep the relationship together. So, I would “confess” my sins to my (now) ex-wife in an effort to demonstrate that I would do better so that she’d stay. What a … Continue reading “Taking on too much!”
Not Cheap!
Therefore if you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift. -Matthew 5:23-24, NKJV “God forgives me. So what’s your problem?!” -Cheater Does … Continue reading “Not Cheap!”
Red Flag: Empathy sin teaching
The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us. We have seen his glory, the glory of the one and only Son, who came from the Father, full of grace and truth. -John 1:14, NIV Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep. -Romans 12:15, KJV Recently, empathy has encountered push back in … Continue reading “Red Flag: Empathy sin teaching”
To be seen
13 Thereafter, Hagar used another name to refer to the Lord, who had spoken to her. She said, “You are the God who sees me.” -Genesis 16:13a, NLT To be seen! I think this is a human need: to be truly seen and known. This is what God did for Hagar in her time of distress following … Continue reading “To be seen”
Powerful worship song
When I was in the pit of adultery discovery and the divorce discard, I was attending a church that regularly played a song with true spiritual power. It is a song that lifted and lifts my eyes from my circumstances and places them on God who is holy and perfect. The song is a version … Continue reading “Powerful worship song”