Last night, my copy-line editor sent back copies of her work on my book manuscript. The book is one more step closer to becoming a reality. I am leaning towards doing one final title change since I do not want people mistaking this book as a memoir. It is not. This is a pastoral care … Continue reading “DM Book Copy-editing Back!”
Opposite Sex Hatred Phase
When the infidelity betrayal is fresh, a temptation exists to write off an entire gender. I think this is very common for faithful spouses. I think it is part of the grief process. We feel vulnerable and betrayed. The trauma of it all makes us want to avoid putting ourselves in a place where … Continue reading “Opposite Sex Hatred Phase”
Pastors need to say it aloud!
“From the least to the greatest, all are greedy for gain; prophets and priests alike, all practice deceit. They dress the wound of my people as though it were not serious. ‘Peace, peace,’ they say, when there is no peace. Are they ashamed of their detestable conduct? No, they have no shame at all; they … Continue reading “Pastors need to say it aloud!”
Dear DM, I wish I had found your website sooner.
Dear Divorce Minister, I’m not articulate so I’ll try to explain that I wish I had found your website sooner. My husband has been a serial cheater for 25 years, I just didn’t know it. How stupid can a woman be? For many reasons, I wish I had found your website sooner. You see, I’ve … Continue reading “Dear DM, I wish I had found your website sooner.”
Broken bone, a broken soul
All his sons and daughters came to comfort him, but he refused to be comforted. “No,” he said, “I will continue to mourn until I join my son in the grave.” So his father wept for him [i.e. Joseph]. – Genesis 37:35, NIV When a broken bone heals, I hear that it is stronger in … Continue reading “Broken bone, a broken soul”
Cheap Forgiveness for Cheaters
Therefore if you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift. -Matthew 5:23-24, NKJV “God forgives me. So what’s your problem?!” -Cheater Does … Continue reading “Cheap Forgiveness for Cheaters”
Another Tullian Tchividjian Cheater Pity-Fest
Yet an elder needs to be one who is without blame before others. He should be one whose heart is for his wife alone and not another woman. -I Timothy 3:2, TPT Tullian Tchividjian, disgraced and defrocked former senior pastor of Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church, is complaining, again, about how Christians are too hard on cheaters. He … Continue reading “Another Tullian Tchividjian Cheater Pity-Fest”
To Feel God’s Presence – A song that helps me
When I was in the pit of adultery discovery and the divorce discard, I was attending a church that regularly played a song with true spiritual power. It is a song that lifted and lifts my eyes from my circumstances and places them on God who is holy and perfect. The song is a version … Continue reading “To Feel God’s Presence – A song that helps me”
Giants? What is God then?
“The land we traveled through and explored will devour anyone who goes to live there. All the people we saw were huge. We even saw giants there, the descendants of Anak.” -Number 13:32b-33a, NLT Choose to trust God or give into giant-fear? When going through divorce, many issues look insurmountable. We can see the loses. … Continue reading “Giants? What is God then?”
Cheater-Speak: “We never…” Really?!
We never… …talk about our finances. Answer: “Then what was that three hour session we had planning how to sell our place, which was underwater?” …have sex. Answer: “Then what was that we were doing last Sunday afternoon together?” …do anything fun. Answer: “Then why were you smiling last Saturday clearly enjoying our trip together to the City?” … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “We never…” Really?!”