Don’t just pretend to love others. Really love them. Hate what is wrong. Hold tightly to what is good. -Romans 12:9, NLT Real Christians hate adultery because adultery is wrong! You would think this is a given among Christians and pastors, but faithful spouses–like myself–have discovered otherwise. This good hate is conspicuously absent. In fact,I … Continue reading “Real Christians hate adultery!”
Kindness Stories Inspire Tears
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. -Galatians 5:22-23, NIV (emphasis mine) Without fail, I find myself tearing up when I hear stories of kindness. The stranger that stops for another in need and offers of themselves when they didn’t have to. I … Continue reading “Kindness Stories Inspire Tears”
PSA: Being “miserable” is no excuse to cheat!
Public Service Announcement: Being “miserable” is no excuse to cheat! What astounds me is how some pastors do not think this one through very well. They “joke” about their wives “putting up” with them even in the presence of a divorce pastor whose wife cheated on him. They fail to see how insensitive that “joke” … Continue reading “PSA: Being “miserable” is no excuse to cheat!”
Divorce Minister 2017 Statistics
Happy New Year! Each year, I like to do a brief overview of the the traffic here at Divorce Minister. It is encouraging to know that we are not alone and a great multitude of people–as that is what it truly is–are interested in the subjects covered in this blog. In 2017, Divorce Minister had: … Continue reading “Divorce Minister 2017 Statistics”
Pastors, Let’s leave divorce off the vice lists!
Pastors, let us strike “divorce” from our list of social ills and vices! Before going through a divorce myself, I probably never would have understood the importance of this simple move. I was not sensitized to the subtle shaming messages such inclusion sends. What I have noticed is how pastors and other Christian leaders will … Continue reading “Pastors, Let’s leave divorce off the vice lists!”
Cutting the Cord
When at a conference following the fresh official end to my first marriage, I was given some solid advice about my future. Like two ships untying their lines from a dock, I was told to let my ex-wife sail her ship away as I did the same. It was about cutting the cord and going … Continue reading “Cutting the Cord”
Divorce Shame Evil!
And Joseph her husband, being a righteous man and not wanting to disgrace her, planned to divorce her secretly. -Matthew 1:19, NASB (footnote alternate translation used) Divorce Shame Evil! When Christian leaders rail against divorce under all circumstances, they are engaging in an evil practice of which they may not be aware. They may not see … Continue reading “Divorce Shame Evil!”
Good men. Good women. They exist.
He replied again, “I have zealously served the Lord God Almighty. But the people of Israel have broken their covenant with you, torn down your altars, and killed every one of your prophets. I am the only one left, and now they are trying to kill me, too.” … “Yet I will preserve 7,000 others in Israel … Continue reading “Good men. Good women. They exist.”
Naive Christians Will Never Understand
“And whosoever will not receive you, when ye go out of that city, shake off the very dust from your feet for a testimony against them.” -Luke 9:5, KJV Some cheaters are unfit company. The best we can do is limit or end our contact with some individuals who refuse to bend the knee to … Continue reading “Naive Christians Will Never Understand”
And then the cheating is uncovered.
…and be sure your sin will find you out. -Numbers 32:23b, KJV All those emotionally cold counseling meetings. All the finger-pointing and fault-finding sessions. All the anger over what seemed petty yet was treated as “life and death” marriage problems. …then the cheating is uncovered, and it all starts to make sense. While it … Continue reading “And then the cheating is uncovered.”