“Why do the wicked prosper, growing old and powerful?” -Job 21:7, NLT Cheaters sometimes–or even often–seem so happy and carefree. This includes even when their cheating ways have been uncovered by the victims–i.e. the faithful spouses. On the other hand, faithful spouses often look depressed, anxious, and angry following infidelity discovery. They’re “twitchy.” In this post, I … Continue reading “Why We Are So “Twitchy””
The Gospel Coalition (TGC) Controversies As Voiced By Nate Sparks
My introduction to The Gospel Coalition (TGC) took place mostly while I was in seminary at Yale. I was definitely influenced by the leading members of this group including Piper and Keller, in particular. However, as I have matured as a Christian and walked through the difficult valleys of adultery discovery and divorce, I am … Continue reading “The Gospel Coalition (TGC) Controversies As Voiced By Nate Sparks”
Being A Divorcee In Christian Community
For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” But if you bite and devour one another, beware lest you be consumed by one another! -Galatians 5:14-15, NKJV It hard to be divorced and live in the evangelical, Christian community. Because “The Shared Responsibility Lie” is … Continue reading “Being A Divorcee In Christian Community”
Is Telling Unforgiving?
A third time he asked him, “Simon son of John, do you love me?” Peter was hurt that Jesus asked the question a third time. He said, “Lord, you know everything. You know that I love you.” Jesus said, “Then feed my sheep.” -John 21:17, NIV Is it unforgiving to tell people that your marriage … Continue reading “Is Telling Unforgiving?”
Rooted And Unmoving
That he would grant you, according to the riches of his glory, to be strengthened with might by his Spirit in the inner man; That Christ may dwell in your hearts by faith; that ye, being rooted and grounded in love, May be able to comprehend with all saints what is the breadth, and length, … Continue reading “Rooted And Unmoving”
That Which Shall Never Be Mentioned Again–AKA The Affair
“This is what the Lord says: Because of what you have done, I will cause your own household to rebel against you. I will give your wives to another man before your very eyes, and he will go to bed with them in public view.” … Then David confessed to Nathan, “I have sinned against … Continue reading “That Which Shall Never Be Mentioned Again–AKA The Affair”
When we are talking months, years, or even decades of cheating…
Dear friends, if we deliberately continue sinning after we have received knowledge of the truth, there is no longer any sacrifice that will cover these sins. -Hebrews 10:26, NLT The longer someone has led a double-life of cheating, the less likely they will be able to repent and change. What sacrifice remains to cover that … Continue reading “When we are talking months, years, or even decades of cheating…”
Rules Do Not Work
A new heart also will I give you, and a new spirit will I put within you: and I will take away the stony heart out of your flesh, and I will give you an heart of flesh. -Ezekiel 36:26, KJV I can remember when we sat down to hash out THE LIST. This list … Continue reading “Rules Do Not Work”
Get Rooted in God’s Love!
“And I pray that you, being rooted and established in love, may have power, together with all the Lord’s holy people, to grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ….” -Ephesians 3:17b-18, NIV The Good News–i.e. the Gospel–starts with this unfathomable thought: The God of the Universe knows and … Continue reading “Get Rooted in God’s Love!”
Like A Boss
“No weapon formed against you shall prosper, And every tongue which rises against you in judgment You shall condemn. This is the heritage of the servants of the Lord, And their righteousness is from Me,” Says the Lord. -Isaiah 54:17, NKJV Too often we, faithful spouses, do not give ourselves enough credit for what we … Continue reading “Like A Boss”