When the wicked prosper, why bother being good? This is a common question I encounter when a faithful spouses watches their cheating (ex) spouse seemingly avoid any real-life consequences for acting so dastardly and wickedly. It is an ancient question. The Bible is full of rejoinders to the person who is wondering about this sort … Continue reading “Why bother?”
Ask: Where is the loving much?
“Therefore, I tell you, her many sins have been forgiven—as her great love has shown. But whoever has been forgiven little loves little.” -Luke 7:47, NIV The amount of gratitude ought to match the amount forgiven. This is one lesson I take from Jesus’ teaching in this verse. And it is an important spiritual lesson … Continue reading “Ask: Where is the loving much?”
Ruby Slippers
I met with someone down the hall today and discovered that she went through divorce after 29 years of marriage to an emotionally abusive husband. For her healing process she journaled in the form of poems. Though her goal was her own healing and not publication her poems got published in 2008, with the help from … Continue reading “Ruby Slippers”
Cheater-Speak: “What went wrong between us?”
Cheater: “What went wrong between us?” Faithful Spouse: “That’s obvious: The bar trash you were banging is ‘what went wrong between us.’” The cheater-requested marriage autopsy: “What went wrong between us?” When adultery has occurred along the path to divorce, what ended the marriage ought not to be a mystery to any Bible-literate individual. God … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “What went wrong between us?””
Stronger Than They Think
The LORD is my strength and my shield; my heart trusted in him, and I am helped: therefore my heart greatly rejoiceth; and with my song will I praise him. The LORD is their strength, and he is the saving strength of his anointed. -Psalm 28:7-8, KJV This Psalm was given to me by a … Continue reading “Stronger Than They Think”
Cheater-speak: “I’m careful not to bad-mouth you.”
Now the serpent was more cunning than any beast of the field which the Lord God had made. -Genesis 3:1a, NKJV “I’m careful not to bad-mouth you to your friends and family,” says the cheater. This is another tactic by the cheater to control the narrative of the marriage and manage their image. They want the … Continue reading “Cheater-speak: “I’m careful not to bad-mouth you.””
Unwise Permission…
Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. -Proverbs 31:10, KJV One of my bone-headed moves as a husband in my last marriage was to tolerate unhealthy behavior in my wife without engaging in how such behavior was unwise, at best. In particular, I did not engage her in conversation … Continue reading “Unwise Permission…”
Encouraging Song: “When My Heart Is Torn Asunder”
And I heard a great voice out of heaven saying, “Behold, the tabernacle of God is with men, and he will dwell with them, and they shall be his people, and God himself shall be with them, and be their God. And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no … Continue reading “Encouraging Song: “When My Heart Is Torn Asunder””
DM on Pastor Darrin Patrick’s Removal
“Now the overseer is to be above reproach, faithful to his wife, temperate, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach….” -I Timothy 3:2, NIV Situation: Megachurch pastor and author, Darrin Patrick, was recently removed from leadership according to a church statement from The Journey’s elders (click here). He is an author and was/is a vice president of … Continue reading “DM on Pastor Darrin Patrick’s Removal”
Cheater Contempt
“Strengthen the feeble hands, steady the knees that give way; say to those with fearful hearts, “Be strong, do not fear; your God will come, he will come with vengeance; with divine retribution he will come to save you.” -Isaiah 35:3-4, NIV Cheater contempt. It is amazing what we, faithful spouses, are willing to tolerate. … Continue reading “Cheater Contempt”