But anyone who hears my teaching and doesn’t obey it is foolish, like a person who builds a house on sand.
-Matthew 7:26, NLT
We all know it is a sandy foundation.
This is the truth of trying to rebuild a marriage with the infidelity left unaddressed or treated as a “minor” problem. The marriage might “go up,” but it is fated to come down in the most minor of storms. Its foundation is woefully unsound.
A hasty rebuild is going to end up with great loss. Not only does the couple lose what was first lost, but they also lose all that effort the used in building the relationship on that sandy foundation.
It is unwise.
Many pastors and Christians want a quick rebuild as it looks good for them and their ministries. See, I “saved” the marriage and helped them!
The reality is this is not a godly thing to do. It sets the couple up for failure and deeper hurt. The foundation needs to be addressed!
Whenever the infidelity is treated as a side issue or marriage symptom as opposed to an exposure of the cheater’s character failure, the foundation is left unaddressed.
A house might look good sitting on the sand for a period of time. However, only a foolish builder or blind house owner would accept this as good enough. Please don’t be either!
Are you reading my mail? This is the heart of the issue for me. When it happened, we just moved on from the scene of the crime, and I’m very good with a broom. Nothing changed even though I naively thought otherwise. I thought I was being a good Christian husband at the time.
Young children at home complicated things. We’ve been together for a long time now, but I have a sinking feeling that I’m just waiting for the other shoe to drop.