A good name is more desirable than great riches;
to be esteemed is better than silver or gold.
-Proverbs 22:1, NIV
And nothing justifies having an emotional affair.
Just because your spouse committed adultery or had an emotional affair does not mean you are now allowed to have one, too. Leave vengeance for God (see Romans 12:19). And especially don’t go out and have a “revenge affair!”
Think about your name and integrity. Those precious, precious things are what is put in jeopardy if you decide to pursue revenge–especially in kind.
And temptation will abound during the time following abandonment and infidelity discovery. I know it is especially tempting to seek out the listening ear and support of a person who could be a potential partner.
Don’t put yourself in compromising positions.
Wait until the divorce is complete before dating again. Hold fast to your commitment until you are officially released. Be a person of integrity. And use the time waiting for divorce to invest in yourself even if the wait is an extended period of time. We all need some time to grieve and heal, after all. Plus, an investment in you is an investment you keep.
Nothing justifies infidelity.