Therapy alone, a good marriage does NOT make!

If attending pre-marital counseling, marriage therapy, and individual therapy could make a good marriage, then my first marriage ought to have been amazing. It wasn’t. Instead, my current marriage with Mrs. DM–where we have attended nearly zero therapy sessions together–is thriving. Attending therapy does not make a good marriage. Other elements are far more important … Continue reading “Therapy alone, a good marriage does NOT make!”

“Do you hear yourself, cheater?”

“Do you hear yourself? That is what we call making excuses.” -Wise Pastor to Cheater Labeling matters appropriately does not only help the cheater, but it also helps their victim, the faithful spouse. Proper labels expose the deeds of the dark to light (see Ephesians 5:11). It is astounding to me how so-called Christian pastors … Continue reading ““Do you hear yourself, cheater?””

Possible. But likely? Doubt it.

As a dog returns to its vomit, so fools repeat their folly. -Proverbs 26:11, NIV Within the Christian community, so much pressure is placed upon faithful spouses to “reconcile” with their cheating partners. Sometimes lip service is given to the importance that the cheater has actually changed and will not cheat again. However, the general … Continue reading “Possible. But likely? Doubt it.”

Not responsible. Really.

Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away. These desires give birth to sinful actions. -James 1:14-15a, NLT (Emphasis mine) When seeking to retain my minister’s license, I was asked to explain what led to the breakdown of my marriage. To actually quote from the now defunct policy: “In your opinion, … Continue reading “Not responsible. Really.”

A Reminder Of God’s Love For You – A Song Blessing

The LORD thy God in the midst of thee is mighty; he will save, he will rejoice over thee with joy; he will rest in his love, he will joy over thee with singing. -Zephaniah 3:17, KJV When my divorce was coming and after it was fresh, I encountered the following song by artist, Jamie Grace. It … Continue reading “A Reminder Of God’s Love For You – A Song Blessing”

Lame Point: God never intended marriage to end in divorce.

To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; A time to love, and a time to hate; a time of war, and a … Continue reading “Lame Point: God never intended marriage to end in divorce.”

Conversion of Convenience

DM, One thing that I ran into while going to a Christian therapist was the Once Saved Always Saved teachings. I was told that since my “Christian X” refused repentance, restitution, and reconciliation that he was clearly never a Christian. Therefore, X doesn’t ever have to do the “three R’s”, he just needs to really … Continue reading “Conversion of Convenience”

Saying You Are Christian Is Not Enough!

“He that believes in the Son has everlasting life.” Is it enough, then, to believe in the Son,’ someone will say, ‘in order to have everlasting life?’ By no means! Listen to Christ declare this himself when he says, ‘Not everyone who says to me, “Lord! Lord!” shall enter into the kingdom of heaven’” -Early Church … Continue reading “Saying You Are Christian Is Not Enough!”

“Help! I am in an emotional affair.”

“But I say, anyone who even looks at a woman with lust has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” -Matthew 5:28, NLT What to do upon realizing a relationship has crossed the line into the realm of being an emotional affair? 1. The first step–and one of the hardest steps–is properly identifying the … Continue reading ““Help! I am in an emotional affair.””