What if the infidelity predated the marriage?

Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge. -Hebrews 13:4, NKJV What if you find out your spouse cheated on you while you were dating or engaged but kept it a secret? This is damaging on multiple levels: First, you have the cheating. Discovering cheating is a real gut punch. … Continue reading “What if the infidelity predated the marriage?”

Psalm 51 Lesson

For I know my transgressions,     and my sin is always before me. Against you, you only, have I sinned     and done what is evil in your sight; so you are right in your verdict     and justified when you judge. -Psalm 51:3-4, NIV King David allegedly penned this Psalm after being confronted by the Prophet Nathan … Continue reading “Psalm 51 Lesson”

SO many lies!

You belong to your father, the devil…. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies. -John 8:44a, c, NIV SO MANY LIES! You cannot cheat, I believe, without lying. The Cheater is lying to others besides their partner. Plus, I believe they start by lying … Continue reading “SO many lies!”

Consider a pastor who exhibit empathy

  Then Jesus wept. -John 11:35, NLT When looking for a pastor, I would encourage you to consider empathy and compassion as necessary traits. The “answer man” or “answer woman” is not what a hurting heart needs. Today, I read an excellent article about the importance of this trait in pastors. It was written by … Continue reading “Consider a pastor who exhibit empathy”

Cheater Ingratitude

“She cheated on you? Well, did you take her for granted?” -Cruel, Cheater-Apologist Pastor What I find interesting about accusations about ingratitude is how they seem one-sided when a cheater is involved. The faithful spouse is fair game to be criticized for not showing enough gratitude for their spouse. This is doubly the case if … Continue reading “Cheater Ingratitude”

Detaching from their hypocritical ways

“Woe to you, teachers of the law and Pharisees, you hypocrites! You give a tenth of your spices—mint, dill and cumin. But you have neglected the more important matters of the law—justice, mercy and faithfulness. You should have practiced the latter, without neglecting the former.” -Matthew 23:23, NIV Healing from Religious Hypocrites A major learning curve for … Continue reading “Detaching from their hypocritical ways”

Mountain of God

3 Who may ascend the mountain of the Lord? … 4 The one who has clean hands and a pure heart, who does not trust in an idol or swear by a false god. 5 They will receive blessing from the Lord and vindication from God their Savior. -Psalm 24:2a, 3-4, NIV Trust your vindication to God. Cheaters swear by a false god. That … Continue reading “Mountain of God”

PSA: Your second marriage is not doomed!

 For God hath not given us the spirit of fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind. -2 Timothy 1:7, KJV I am deeply troubled by how acceptable it is within Christian leadership to use fear about divorce against faithful spouses. If you are like me, you have heard the terrifying … Continue reading “PSA: Your second marriage is not doomed!”