Adultery is much bigger a problem than the singular sexual act!

“‘But the things that come out of a person’s mouth come from the heart, and these defile them. For out of the heart come evil thoughts—murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander. These are what defile a person….’”  – Jesus in Matthew 15:18-20a, NIV. While one act of adultery is horrible enough, I suspect … Continue reading “Adultery is much bigger a problem than the singular sexual act!”

Helping The Broken-Hearted Betrayed Spouse

A Christian brother comes over one night. He crumples onto your couch tears overflowing. Through his heaving sobs, you learn his wife has left him and is having sex with another man. The hollow and desperate look in his eyes tears at your heart. What can you do? I will start with the negative first. These dangerous responses … Continue reading “Helping The Broken-Hearted Betrayed Spouse”

The Torturous Dance to Divorce

There is that speaketh like the piercings of a sword: but the tongue of the wise is health. -Proverbs 12:18, KJV Cheaters are often very cruel to their spouses. Besides the whole soul rape part, these characters are known to attend couples therapy or pastoral Care sessions only to beat up upon the faithful spouse emotionally. Cheating on the … Continue reading “The Torturous Dance to Divorce”

“You need to focus on your stuff,” says cheater apologist.

“Sure, she cheated. But you need to focus on your stuff.” -Cheater Apologist What never ceases to amaze me is how obtuse some people are as it comes to marital infidelity situations. They could be convinced about the facts; yet, some still choose to apply the pressure on the adultery victim, not the perpetrator. Either … Continue reading ““You need to focus on your stuff,” says cheater apologist.”

Where are the personal responsibility people when it comes to cheaters?!

Where are all the personal responsibility preachers when it comes to talking to cheaters?! -Much is made of the faithful spouse taking personal responsibility for “their part” in the divorce. -Much is made of the faithful spouse taking personal responsibility to forgive their cheater. (In fact, they feel compelled to “speak into” the faithful spouse’s … Continue reading “Where are the personal responsibility people when it comes to cheaters?!”

The warped world of a cheater

This is the verdict: Light has come into the world, but people loved darkness instead of light because their deeds were evil. -John 3:19, NIV The Warped World of Cheaters When you have trouble admitting truth, your grip with reality will become looser and looser. Along with that loosening grip, your world will become warped. This … Continue reading “The warped world of a cheater”

Some People Just Prefer Looking “High-Minded” and “Neutral”

“The hottest places in Hell are reserved for those who in time of moral crisis preserve their neutrality.”  -John F. Kennedy (attributed wrongly to Dante) Considering all the people who love neutrality in the face of adultery discovery, this part of Hell must be rather crowded by now. Ha. Half-joking. Discovering adultery is certainly a … Continue reading “Some People Just Prefer Looking “High-Minded” and “Neutral””

If you are looking to you spouse…

Free Marriage Advice: If you are looking to your spouse to prove that you are lovable, you are looking to the wrong person. When we look to humans to fill a God-shaped hole, we will always be disappointed. Humans were never intended to “fix” us. Only God can satisfy the deepest longings in our souls. … Continue reading “If you are looking to you spouse…”

Choose better!

“Today I have given you the choice between life and death, between blessings and curses. Now I call on heaven and earth to witness the choice you make. Oh, that you would choose life, so that you and your descendants might live!” -Deuteronomy 30:19, NLT Cheater sympathizers often miss the real choices cheaters make. They … Continue reading “Choose better!”