“‘In your anger do not sin”” -Ephesians 4:26a & Psalm 4:4a, NIV. “Because Joseph her husband was a righteous man and did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly.” – Matthew 1:19, NIV. Context matters greatly in both divorce and issues of anger. In and … Continue reading “Divorce Is No More A Sin Than Being Angry”
Month: July 2014
Here’s To The Faithful Spouses!
Many claim to have unfailing love, but a faithful person who can find? -Proverbs 20:6, NIV HERE’S TO THE FAITHFUL SPOUSES*: Did you catch that? You are rare. It says so in Scripture. God says it. So, it must be so. You possess a very valuable character trait–faithfulness. And if anyone knows how this character … Continue reading “Here’s To The Faithful Spouses!”
Collateral Damage Of Adultery
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. – Hebrews 13:4, NIV Today, I am going to share on one of my pet-peeves. Treating adultery as if it is a private issue between only the faithful spouse and his/her cheater. It is … Continue reading “Collateral Damage Of Adultery”
Mrs. DM: Anger is OK.
Alrighty, I need to put this out there because honestly, I’m appalled with the lack of understanding of healthy emotions. Anger is healthy. Is it pleasant? No. Is it fun? No. Is it necessary? Completely. Piggybacking this on my post on pain (Mrs. Divorce Minister Speaks), in order to empathize and really change the way … Continue reading “Mrs. DM: Anger is OK.”
A Survey Alert From Chump Lady
Today, Chump Lady passed along a survey that an eager graduate student in psychology is doing on infidelity. Here is the link to Chump Lady’s post: http://chumplady.com/2014/07/forgiveness-troll-says-take-a-survey/ Below I am quoting from Chump Lady’s post where she agrees to take the survey and post it to her readership: Then when I finished the survey, I … Continue reading “A Survey Alert From Chump Lady”
You Never Really “Get Over It”
All his sons and daughters came to comfort him, but he refused to be comforted. “No,” he said, “I will continue to mourn until I join my son in the grave.” So his father wept for him. – Genesis 37:35, NIV Perhaps, I have grief on my mind today as I did a funeral and graveside service this … Continue reading “You Never Really “Get Over It””
Failed Marriage, I Think Not
“Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” -Hebrews 13:4, NIV “The Marriage Failed.” Yeah, right! Today, I am writing about a certain psycho-babble used to help everyone avoid unpleasant discussions surrounding divorce. “The marriage failed.” It tried very hard…poor thing…but ultimately … Continue reading “Failed Marriage, I Think Not”
Beloved Child
See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are. The reason why the world does not know us is that it did not know him. – I John 3:1, ESV BELOVED CHILD Too much of my life was spent chasing after the identity of being … Continue reading “Beloved Child”
Letter from Still A Chump
Hi Pastor David, I found your blog via Chump Lady. I know that this is not your blog’s stated purpose — you call it Divorce Minister after all — but I am trying to reconcile with my husband after his affair nearly 3 years ago. I read Chump Lady because I find that … Continue reading “Letter from Still A Chump”
Lock the Doors, Grieve the Death
“The Lord is near to the brokenhearted And saves those who are crushed in spirit.” -Psalm 34:18, NASB Metaphors, while being imperfect approximations, often can help us grasp difficult and complex truths conveying both intellectual and emotional freight with vivid imagery. Here’s my shot on explaining by metaphor why focusing on forgiveness first after adultery is cruel: Imagine you … Continue reading “Lock the Doors, Grieve the Death”