Mrs. DM tells me that this was her favorite picture of me from my dating profile. It was taken in the Summer or early Fall of 2012 a few months prior to my divorce.
After months, years, or even decades of emotional beat-downs, faithful spouses often struggle in knowing their incredible worth. We discount our gifts, abilities, and precious status in God’s eyes.
Faithful spouses, you are an incredible bunch!
The stories I hear and the people I have met through this ministry confirms this fact to me. I continue to stand amazed at what God does through faithful spouses. You are overcomers!
A single mom going back to school and getting a degree.
A minister losing his job over his wife’s cheating yet finding a new, fulfilling career despite all the unbelievable opposition.
A jobless seminary graduate discovering his calling and moving on his own across country to start a vibrant professional career.
These are just a few stories of which I am aware. Despite what cheaters might think or hope…
Faithful spouses don’t fold under life’s pressures…we reload!
This brings me to the second point of my posting today:
I continue to be amazed by how foolish cheaters are.
They squander such riches for fleeting pleasure. That is not to say that the marriage was flawless or the faithful spouse was perfect. No one is. However, it is clear to me from talking, corresponding, and otherwise interacting with countless faithful spouses that cheaters truly undervalue what they have. They are blinded by the wickedness in their hearts.
Beautiful people–inside and sometimes even outside–are discarded for fantasy relationships–for that is what affairs are–and loving family are destroyed for pure selfish reasons.
In other words, the truly lasting things of life that a person can count on for comfort on his or her deathbed are foolishly treated like trash by a cheater. But one person’s trash is another person’s treasure…as the saying goes.
Just because you have been discarded by a cheater does not make you trash!
You have to remember that they are wearing sin-goggles, and such goggles distort all that they see. It is not wise to base your value or worth from such an impaired person any more than it is wise to ride in a car with a drunk at the wheel.
Your life is worth more than that. Take the keys back.
it is time you drive and open your own eyes to how incredible God has made you!
Because, I guarantee that you are an amazing group of people. So, start embracing that!