I will sentence you to the punishment of women who commit adultery and who shed blood; I will bring on you the blood vengeance of my wrath and jealous anger.
-Ezekiel 16:38, NIV
God is neither meek or neutral when it comes to adultery. Rather, He is righteously wrathful!
A godly response to adultery–as we can see from this verse–is one full of fury and wrath. It is righteous and good to be angry over such sin!
Obviously, we are to express this anger in righteous and godly ways (Ephesians 4:26). However, I want to remind you that God does not expect a faithful spouse to be neutral about being violated.
Anger is the proper and godly response to the violation of adultery.
Counselors, pastors, and cheaters need not look any further than the adulterous betrayal as to the source of a faithful spouse’s anger.
Furthermore, if anyone of them truly grasped God’s heart on the matter of adultery, they would seek to affirm the anger as proper and understandable as opposed to treating it as a problem as is so often happens.
Something is not wrong with a faithful spouse if he or she is angry about the infidelity. Rather, something is wrong if he or she is not angry over such a wicked violation.
Instead of blaming a faithful spouse for being angry, the godly leader will dig into the violation(s) that led to such anger.
(As an aside, can you imagine someone lecturing God about His anger towards Jerusalem here in Ezekiel as such bozos regularly do to faithful spouses?!)