Just a date yet …



You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book.

-Psalm 56:8, NLT

Grief does not simply disappear forever because time has passed and new joys in life have arrived.

I was reminded of this truth today.

At work, I was making appointments and assigning dates to some meetings. These happened to fall on the date of my first marriage’s wedding anniversary.

And just seeing the date brought back a sense of sadness…almost tears in my eyes.


Now years removed from the marriage’s painful ending, I still can feel sadness and grief over what was lost. And that is okay.

It simply means I was deeply invested in that relationship as anyone who values and honors marriage ought to be.

So, if you find yourself sad–years or even decades removed from the toxic ending of your marriage–know that feeling sad is more than okay. It does not make you defective.

Such sadness indicates at the heart-level that you are the sort of person who values marriage and were genuinely sad your marriage ended the way it did. 

And that is a good and godly thing!