Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. – Romans 12:15, NIV
Our churches and families would be so better off if we lived by these words.
“…mourn with those who mourn.”
Mourning is what is happening for faithful spouse upon discovering the dastardly betrayal.
We mourn so much:
- lost dreams
- safety and trust in our ability to detect lies
- a coherent narrative of the past (as it is now under the heavy, toxic fog of adulterous lies)
- people that we thought were “friends”
- family (as in in-laws in some cases)
- money (ready for the divorce downsize?)
- health (nothing like the divorce diet of absolute trauma to get you into those skinny jeans)
- sense of God’s presence (the unbelievable pain seems to make Him feel absent in my experience)
- time with one’s own kids
- and more
My hope in writing this blog and talking about these issues is to see more Christians become people who support faithful spouses (and their families) who mourn as opposed to blaming them for the adulterous betrayal (and following divorce).