A few days ago, a vigilant reader of the blog sent me the name of a psychologist, Omar Minwalla, Psy.D., who takes adultery seriously. It was refreshing to read his work (see link here) and hear him speak (see link here) on the subject of caring for faithful spouses. While I have no idea of his faith background, I appreciate his work that very much aligns with the spiritual truth that adultery is soul rape.
I hope his tribe increases in the field of psychology.
A little framing, Dr. Omar tackles this issue as a profesional who has worked with sex addicts and their spouses. While I am not taking a stand here on sexual addiction (e.g. real, not real, etc.), I am saying what he learned in talking with the faithful spouses (i.e. spouses of sex addicts) fits with the spiritual truth I teach on this blog. He calls his model of care the Sex Addiction-Induced Trauma Model (see link here).
I am glad to learn of a secular psychologist willing to be counted as someone who advocates for compentent, professional care for survivors of adultery. While he is facing an uphill battle in his professional field to accept his teachings/findings (not unlike I sometimes experience in my own), I am thankful he is willing to take the heat in order to help turn the tide against what is all too often abusive “care” of faithful spouses.*
*By the way, the interview he does as a podcast for The West Coast Trauma Project is an especially good one to hear. I link to it above or you can listen to it here.