You are not a disappointment to God!
You did not let God down!
You are a faithful spouse and a dear child of God.
Maybe I am the only faithful spouse to ever have struggled with this one. I doubt it. But I don’t know. When the pain of the divorce was acute, I felt and somewhat believed a particular lie that caused me considerable distress.
The lie said,
“You let God down when your marriage ended in divorce.”
I am so thankful for the friends and godly people in my life who helped me recognize this as a lie and false accusation. It was shame/guilt I did not need to bear.
The marriage was ravaged by my former spouse’s adultery, and it was ended by my former spouse’s sinful insistence on divorce. Even if I had ended it myself after the adultery, it still would not mean I “let God down.” God does not condemn us for something that is not sin (see Jeremiah 3:8, Matthew 5:32 and 19:9). And we cannot force someone to repent. Even God allows humans to choose against Him in the end.
So, I repeat these words to those of you, faithful spouses, struggling today as I struggled now years ago: