Anyone else here given a label by a counselor identifying YOU as the marriage problem? This assumes the cheater comes to counseling. Some don’t. A problem with counselors is that some are not up on the games cheaters play. They become complicit in the act of keeping the faithful spouse off the scent of what … Continue reading “Anyone labelled as the problem in the marriage by the counselor?”
Category: Trauma of adultery
To the mountains, again
I will lift up mine eyes unto the hills, from whence cometh my help. My help cometh from the Lord, which made heaven and earth. -Psalm 121:1-2, KJV Last time I was in Colorado, I was still married to my now (ex) wife. The times have certainly changed. This time I am here for my awesome … Continue reading “To the mountains, again”
Is that love? No. It is not.
20 If someone says, “I love God,” but hates a fellow believer,that person is a liar; for if we don’t love people we can see, how can we love God, whom we cannot see? -I John 4:20, NLT Is this love? Lying to, abusing, stealing, and otherwise risking the well-being of another. Of course, not. This … Continue reading “Is that love? No. It is not.”
Silver Lining about friends following cheating revelations
A friend is always loyal, and a brother is born to help in time of need. -Proverbs 17:7, NLT A blessing in disguise with cheating revelation is how that awful news exposes ones true friends verses erstwhile “friends.” I am SOOOO grateful for the many friends who passed that fire-test. These are people who stood … Continue reading “Silver Lining about friends following cheating revelations”
“It doesn’t matter what she did,” says cheater apologist.
“It doesn’t matter what she did. You need to focus on your own sins.” – Cheater Apologist This sort of response is the very definition of dismissive. It has all the appearance of godliness without the substance. Of course, adultery–i.e. the victimization of faithful spouses–matters to God! When someone responds by being dismissive of adultery or … Continue reading ““It doesn’t matter what she did,” says cheater apologist.”
“I didn’t tell you, because I thought you would get angry,” says Cheater.
“I didn’t tell you, because I thought you’d get angry.” -Cheater Let’s start to unpack this “gem” of a cheater-speak: 1. The cheater is aware that what he or she did might be upsetting to the faithful spouse, yet still did it. This is another reason why I am in the camp that cheaters have full knowledge … Continue reading ““I didn’t tell you, because I thought you would get angry,” says Cheater.”
Leads to destruction
You can rationalize it all you want and justify the path of error you have chosen, but you’ll find out in the end that you took the road to destruction. -Proverbs 14:12, TPT “I have to follow my heart,” says the cheater. “God would want me to be happy,” says the cheater. “I have to … Continue reading “Leads to destruction”
Glad God Condemns
God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. -Hebrews 13:4b, NLT God is love…. -I John 4:16b, KJV If God does not condemn anything, can God real be loving? I do not think so. That is why I am grateful God does condemn adultery as evil (see Deut. 22:22). Such condemnation is … Continue reading “Glad God Condemns”
Still a virgin? Really?!
(Nora defines “fooling around” as beyond making out but short of intercourse—to her knowledge, Crist never engaged in intercourse so he could honestly say he was a virgin.) -Taylor Berglund, “John Crist Cancels 2019 Tour Dates After Reports of Sexting, Harassment, Manipulation” This sentence in the article about disgraced Christian Comedian John Crist caught my … Continue reading “Still a virgin? Really?!”
Christian Comedian John Crist Fiasco
Recently, news broke about a Christian comedian known for his parodies of the evangelical culture. John Crist canceled his tour to deal with a pattern of admitted sinful behavior towards women. If half of what is shared in the breaking article (click here) is true, Crist is a predator. The article shares stories of how … Continue reading “Christian Comedian John Crist Fiasco”