“Do to others as you would like them to do to you.” -Luke 6:31, NLT Unbiblical divorce prejudice is insidious. Christian leaders can think themselves completely immune, and that is when they are most dangerous. They are not able to take feedback about their blind-spots on such matters, which may result in further harm to … Continue reading “On Forced Sabbaticals For The Divorced”
Category: Trauma of adultery
Here is to the Courageously Divorced!!!
Because Joseph her husband was faithful to the law, and yet did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly. -Mathew 1:19, NIV Sometimes divorce is the best of the bad options left. Today, I want to celebrate the courageous ones. The divorced who chose ridicule from pastors, … Continue reading “Here is to the Courageously Divorced!!!”
Narrative From Pastors Needs Changing
“‘If a man divorces a woman and she goes and marries someone else, he will not take her back again, for that would surely corrupt the land. But you have prostituted yourself with many lovers, so why are you trying to come back to me?’ says the Lord.” -Jeremiah 3:1, NLT “If another believer sins, rebuke … Continue reading “Narrative From Pastors Needs Changing”
Satan Quoted Scripture, Too!
And he brought him to Jerusalem, and set him on a pinnacle of the temple, and said unto him, “If thou be the Son of God, cast thyself down from hence: For it is written, ‘He shall give his angels charge over thee, to keep thee: And in their hands they shall bear thee up, lest at … Continue reading “Satan Quoted Scripture, Too!”
Pastors, Why Not Treat Adultery As Abuse?
If someone says, “I love God,” and hates his brother, he is a liar; for he who does not love his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen? -I John 4:20, NKJV What bothers–and astounds–me is how typical infidelity or adultery is treated as a symptom or side-issue … Continue reading “Pastors, Why Not Treat Adultery As Abuse?”
Played The Whore…No More?
Thou hast played the whore also with the Assyrians, because thou wast unsatiable; yea, thou hast played the harlot with them, and yet couldest not be satisfied. – Ezekiel 16:28, KJV (Emphasis Mine) Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral … Continue reading “Played The Whore…No More?”
The Broken Vase Parable
Another thing you do: You flood the Lord’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer looks with favor on your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands. You ask, “Why?” It is because the Lord is the witness between you and the wife of your youth. You have been … Continue reading “The Broken Vase Parable”
Why We Are So “Twitchy”
“Why do the wicked prosper, growing old and powerful?” -Job 21:7, NLT Cheaters sometimes–or even often–seem so happy and carefree. This includes even when their cheating ways have been uncovered by the victims–i.e. the faithful spouses. On the other hand, faithful spouses often look depressed, anxious, and angry following infidelity discovery. They’re “twitchy.” In this post, I … Continue reading “Why We Are So “Twitchy””
The Gospel Coalition (TGC) Controversies As Voiced By Nate Sparks
My introduction to The Gospel Coalition (TGC) took place mostly while I was in seminary at Yale. I was definitely influenced by the leading members of this group including Piper and Keller, in particular. However, as I have matured as a Christian and walked through the difficult valleys of adultery discovery and divorce, I am … Continue reading “The Gospel Coalition (TGC) Controversies As Voiced By Nate Sparks”
Is Telling Unforgiving?
A third time he asked him, “Simon son of John, do you love me?” Peter was hurt that Jesus asked the question a third time. He said, “Lord, you know everything. You know that I love you.” Jesus said, “Then feed my sheep.” -John 21:17, NIV Is it unforgiving to tell people that your marriage … Continue reading “Is Telling Unforgiving?”