If a man be found lying with a woman married to an husband, then they shall both of them die, both the man that lay with the woman, and the woman: so shalt thou put away evil from Israel. – Deuteronomy 22:22, KJV “You’re encouraging people to divorce too lightly!” This or some similar version … Continue reading “Encouraging People to Divorce Too Lightly?”
Category: Trauma of adultery
Vision of DIVORCE MINISTER Blog
…fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. – Hebrews 12:2, NIV Why create the blog “Divorce Minister?” Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously is a blog born … Continue reading “Vision of DIVORCE MINISTER Blog”
The Air Wave War
In a lawsuit the first to speak seems right, until someone comes forward and cross-examines. -Proverbs 18:17, NIV Stories are powerful. They give hope in hopeless places. And they can crush the spirit as well. Stories are well known as effective manipulation tools. Despots the world around recognized this and engage in promoting propaganda for … Continue reading “The Air Wave War”
Lament and Michael Card
So often the church has lost sight of how important lament is. God wants our honesty. And sometimes all we can give God is our tears and protests of pain. The following series of YouTube videos linked below lay out a teaching by the Christian musician, Michael Card, on the topic of lament. It blessed … Continue reading “Lament and Michael Card”
Do NOT Respond In Kind!
A good name is more desirable than great riches; to be esteemed is better than silver or gold. -Proverbs 22:1, NIV Nothing justifies committing adultery. And nothing justifies having an emotional affair. Nothing. Just because your spouse committed adultery or had an emotional affair does not mean you are now allowed to have one, too. … Continue reading “Do NOT Respond In Kind!”
King David’s Son Still Died…
Then David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the Lord.” Nathan replied, “The Lord has taken away your sin. You are not going to die. But because by doing this you have shown utter contempt for the Lord, the son born to you will die.” -2 Samuel 12:13-14, NIV Forgiveness does not wipe out all consequences for … Continue reading “King David’s Son Still Died…”
“For the kids!”
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV Adulterous spouses have no shame. On one hand, they will willfully and maliciously disregard how their selfish sinful choices impact their children, and then they will invoke their names … Continue reading ““For the kids!””
Mailbag follow up
5/4/15 post continued. See original comment here. Redeemed, I’ll be blunt. It doesn’t sound like you’ve actually repented and truly owned your choices and actions. Know how I know? I’ve cheated (and it’s not worth it). I had a kid out of wedlock and was a single mom. I’ve had my fair share of big mistakes … Continue reading “Mailbag follow up”
Mailbag: “Are marriages really decimated by one person?” Um, Yeah.
“Redeemed” wrote: It’s hard to read your blog, because you seem to be very bitter still, about everything to do with your marriage and it’s ending. My husband is training to be a minister and we had been married for 9 years and in September 2014 I started to have an affair for just under … Continue reading “Mailbag: “Are marriages really decimated by one person?” Um, Yeah.”
Betrayal Ripple Effect
Experiencing the adulterous betrayal of one’s spouse is bad enough. It is soul rape, after all. That pain alone is excruciating. A sucker punch to the gut that lingers for days, weeks, months…. It feels like your spouse disemboweled you and turned your world upside down with one awful adulterous revelation (let alone all that … Continue reading “Betrayal Ripple Effect”