Who executes justice for the oppressed, Who gives food to the hungry. The Lord gives freedom to the prisoners. The Lord opens the eyes of the blind; The Lord raises those who are bowed down; The Lord loves the righteous. -Psalm 146:7-8, NKJV Pastors are not marriage therapists. We are pastors. Our area of training … Continue reading “Adultery Makes Pastors Uncomfortable”
Category: Trauma of adultery
Slaying the Fear Giant
For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind. – 2 Timothy 1:7, NKJV The fear of man brings a snare, But whoever trusts in the Lord shall be safe. – Proverbs 29:25, NKJV Are you anxious? Do you worry about what crazy thing … Continue reading “Slaying the Fear Giant”
Grief and Divorce
Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep. – Romans 12:15, KJV Recently, a tragedy struck a community to which I am connected. A young man died in a car accident while going to work. In response, people are sending card(s), flowers, and prayers to his mother plus the work community directly … Continue reading “Grief and Divorce”
Looking For Marriage Deficiencies Is “Barking Up Wrong Tree!”
People do not despise a thief if he steals to satisfy his hunger when he is starving. Yet if he is caught, he must pay sevenfold, though it costs him all the wealth of his house. -Proverbs 6:30-31, NIV These verses about a hungry thief stealing are in the midst of the passage warning the … Continue reading “Looking For Marriage Deficiencies Is “Barking Up Wrong Tree!””
Sometimes You Need A Wake-up Whack!
Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses. -Proverbs 27:6, NIV I was incredibly naive prior to experiencing my first wife’s adultery and abandonment. Very naive! And I am thankful for the friends God put in my path who gave me the proverbial “wake-up whack” when I needed it. While being blunt, … Continue reading “Sometimes You Need A Wake-up Whack!”
Agency & Advisors After Adultery Discovery
I saw the dead, both great and small, standing before God’s throne. And the books were opened, including the Book of Life. And the dead were judged according to what they had done, as recorded in the books. – Rev. 20:12, NLT This past week I viewed a YouTube video of a former megachurch pastor … Continue reading “Agency & Advisors After Adultery Discovery”
Betrayed With A Kiss
Now the betrayer had given them a sign, saying, “The one I will kiss is the man. Seize him and lead him away under guard.” And when he came, he went up to him at once and said, “Rabbi!” And he kissed him. -Mark 14:44-45, ESV Three Years. That’s the time Judas spent eating with, … Continue reading “Betrayed With A Kiss”
Gotta Ask Yourself: Why did she HAVE TO leave?
To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. – I Corinthians 7:10, NIV While a marriage is falling apart or actively being destroyed as it is with infidelity, it is easy to be caught in a fog. Your rational mind may not be able … Continue reading “Gotta Ask Yourself: Why did she HAVE TO leave?”
Adulterous Assault of Masculinity and Feminity
When adultery or infidelity takes place, lies are seeded into the hearts of the faithful spouses. Or they are attempted to be seeded. These are nasty things. They attack the worth and well-being of the victim of this heinous sin. The lies attempt to steal even more from the faithful spouse whose soul has just … Continue reading “Adulterous Assault of Masculinity and Feminity”
Lies Like Sword Wounds
Like a club or a sword or a sharp arrow is one who gives false testimony against a neighbor. Proverbs 25:18, NIV The lies. Lies attacking the faithful spouse’s character. Lies designed to destroy worth and humiliate. Lies hiding the true marital history. Lies manipulating counselors/pastors against the faithful spouse. Lies Lies. Lies. They are … Continue reading “Lies Like Sword Wounds”