Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous. – Hebrews 13:4, ESV When you are drowning, you often go to desperate measures to stay afloat. I am a knowledge junkie. So, I turned to reading to improve myself as … Continue reading ““The Exit Affair” Nonsense”
Category: Trauma of adultery
Projection much?!
“Behold, I am sending you out as sheep in the midst of wolves, so be wise as serpents and innocent as doves.” -Mt 10:16, ESV I remember early in the dissolution of my first marriage feeling confused after I had a conversation with my (now) ex-wife. As I remember this conversation, she had accused me … Continue reading “Projection much?!”
“There’s Always Two Sides To A Story”
The one who states his case first seems right, until the other comes and examines him. -Proverbs 18:17, ESV An evildoer listens to wicked lips, and a liar gives ear to a mischievous tongue. -Proverbs 17:4, ESV “There’s always two sides to a story.” I wonder how many who come here have heard that statement … Continue reading ““There’s Always Two Sides To A Story””
Hypocrisy Is An Old Problem
You who say that one must not commit adultery, do you commit adultery?…You who boast in the law dishonor God by breaking the law. For, as it is written, “The name of God is blasphemed among the Gentiles because of you.” – Romans 2:22a, 23-24, ESV My relationship with Jesus and reliance on the Bible saved … Continue reading “Hypocrisy Is An Old Problem”
So What If They Do Not Come Back?
Jesus said to him, “If you would be perfect, go, sell what you possess and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come, follow me.” When the young man heard this he went away sorrowful, for he had great possessions. -Mt 19:21-22, ESV Jesus was not afraid to give people … Continue reading “So What If They Do Not Come Back?”
I am NOT FOR the marriage
When Joshua was by Jericho, he lifted up his eyes and looked, and behold, a man was standing before him with his drawn sword in his hand. And Joshua went to him and said to him, “Are you for us, or for our adversaries?” And he said, “No; but I am the commander of the … Continue reading “I am NOT FOR the marriage”
Football, Film, And Responsibility
DM as #60 (2004) The day I donned a football helmet and put on shoulder pads are now over a decade ago. In many ways, it feels like a lifetime ago. However, those years playing football (13 years) taught me some very important lessons. One of those lessons had to deal with personal responsibility. In … Continue reading “Football, Film, And Responsibility”
Too Much Advice!
Counsel Bombardment An aspect of my journey towards healing following adultery discovery and divorce was dealing with all the counsel I received. If anything, I was far too open to people’s advice in the early stages of my marriages disintegration. Part of this was a reflection of my passivity where I was not owning my … Continue reading “Too Much Advice!”
Hanging Over Their Heads Forever?
“Even if she cheats on me, I will forgive her and take her back,” Desperate Husband said. “Well, that’s no marriage. You would just hold that over her head forever,” said Mr. Worldly-Minded. This is a real exchange that I had with someone prior to discovering the irrefutable evidence of my former spouse’s adultery. I … Continue reading “Hanging Over Their Heads Forever?”
Lessons From His Scars
But he said to them, “Unless I see the nail marks in his hands and put my finger where the nails were, and put my hand into his side, I will not believe.” Then he said to Thomas, “Put your finger here; see my hands. Reach out your hand and put it into my side. Stop … Continue reading “Lessons From His Scars”