To the Jews who had believed him, Jesus said, “If you hold to my teaching, you are really my disciples. Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” – John 8:31-32, NIV How do we know if we are Jesus’ disciples? Our actions speak we are so. They say we obey … Continue reading “Actions As Truth Telling”
Category: Trauma of adultery
Christian Love Ain’t Unconditional…it enforces healthy boundaries, too.
Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. – … Continue reading “Christian Love Ain’t Unconditional…it enforces healthy boundaries, too.”
Proscribing Patience For Adulterous Spouses But None For Faithful Spouses
In my trial to keep my license as a minister, a focus of the questions was about whether or not I had forgiven my ex-wife. This is a fair question to ask a minister. Bitterness in the pulpit is a dangerous thing. And we are commanded to forgive. However, the accompanying piece was conspicuously absent. … Continue reading “Proscribing Patience For Adulterous Spouses But None For Faithful Spouses”
Et tu, Brute?
While he was still speaking a crowd came up, and the man who was called Judas, one of the Twelve, was leading them. He approached Jesus to kiss him, but Jesus asked him, “Judas, are you betraying the Son of Man with a kiss?” – Luke 22:47-48, NIV Discovering adultery is a punch-drunk experience. It is … Continue reading “Et tu, Brute?”
Divorce Is NOT Worst Outcome Following Adultery
The speaker in the above clip from The Gospel Coalition, which is a theologically Reformed group of like-minded, evangelical Christian leaders, is Pastor Erwin Lutzer. He is a longtime senior pastor at The Moody Church in Chicago, IL. Pastor Lutzer does radio shows espousing his evangelical views and is a very prolific writer publishing … Continue reading “Divorce Is NOT Worst Outcome Following Adultery”
Pastor Matt Chandler on the De-churched
A major danger during the time of adultery discovery and divorce is to lose one’s faith. Pastor Matt Chandler does an excellent job in this brief clip explaining how that can easily happen. He even names divorce as one of potential catalysts. Maybe you can relate to this clip? I can. It felt extremely unjust … Continue reading “Pastor Matt Chandler on the De-churched”
Stupid Things Naive Christians Say…
After the Lord had said these things to Job, he said to Eliphaz the Temanite, “I am angry with you and your two friends, because you have not spoken the truth about me, as my servant Job has. So now take seven bulls and seven rams and go to my servant Job and sacrifice a … Continue reading “Stupid Things Naive Christians Say…”
Despising God’s Gifts
Once when Jacob was cooking stew, Esau came in from the field, and he was exhausted. And Esau said to Jacob, “Let me eat some of that red stew, for I am exhausted!” (Therefore his name was called Edom.) Jacob said, “Sell me your birthright now.” Esau said, “I am about to die; of what … Continue reading “Despising God’s Gifts”
Shaming the Abandoned
If your husband or wife isn’t a follower of the Lord and decides to divorce you, then you should agree to it. You are no longer bound to that person. After all, God chose you and wants you to live at peace. – I Corinthians 7:15, CEV When I was going through the ecclesiastical trial … Continue reading “Shaming the Abandoned”
Blame Only Where Blame’s Due
Parents are not to be put to death for their children, nor children put to death for their parents; each will die for their own sin. – Deuteronomy 24:16, NIV Even under the strict law of the Old Testament, God followers were taught the principle that one punishes only the one who commits the sin. … Continue reading “Blame Only Where Blame’s Due”