23 For this command is a lamp, this teaching is a light, and correction and instruction are the way to life, 24 keeping you from your neighbor’s wife, from the smooth talk of a wayward woman. -Proverbs 6:23-24, NIV I was furious! My divorce attorney advised me to NOT do anything rash when I revealed I had … Continue reading “No call”
Category: Anger
Augustine Quote on Anger
“Hope has two beautiful daughters: Anger and Courage. Anger that things are the way they are. Courage to make them the way they ought to be.” -Augustine. I ran across this quote attributed to Augustine the other day as I was reading about dealing with serial bullies (in Free Us From Bullying: Real Solutions Beyond Being … Continue reading “Augustine Quote on Anger”
Baiting you
Stone is heavy and sand a burden, but a fool’s provocation is heavier than both. -Proverbs 27:3, NIV Baiting You Some Cheaters delight in pushing your buttons. They may especially enjoy doing this during therapy or with your pastor or in court. Nothing would delight them more than to paint you as neurotic or “angry.” … Continue reading “Baiting you”
Do not let them rile you up too much!
If you live without restraint and are unable to control your temper, you’re as helpless as a city with broken-down defenses, open to attack. -Proverbs 25:28, TPT Boy, this is a hard one to learn. Cheaters seemed skilled at needling their partner just where they are the most vulnerable. It might be over their “manhood” … Continue reading “Do not let them rile you up too much!”
God hates sin, not divorce!
I have seen your adulteries, And your lustful neighings, The lewdness of your harlotry, Your abominations on the hills in the fields. Woe to you, O Jerusalem! Will you still not be made clean?” -Jeremiah 13:27, NKJV God Hates Adultery More Than He Hates Divorce. This is my response to Christian counselors and pastors who … Continue reading “God hates sin, not divorce!”
I care about you but…
The words of the reckless pierce like swords, but the tongue of the wise brings healing. -Proverbs 12:18, NIV I care about you BUT not enough… …to end my friendship with the adulterous spouse until she repents. My thoughts: “Sorry, your concern for me sounds skin deep. Scripture is clear that a person who … Continue reading “I care about you but…”
Godly peace
6 Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. 7 Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. -Philippians 4:6-7a, NLT Recently, I received some disappointing news. I was passed over for promotion despite currently doing the job keeping the department … Continue reading “Godly peace”
Misplaced Anger
God is a righteous judge, a God who displays his wrath every day. -Psalm 7:11, NIV Misplaced Anger Have you ever been the target of your Cheater’s misplaced anger? Or should I call it rage? They decided that YOU are the obstacle to their GREAT HAPPINESS! If only you were different or behaved different or weren’t … Continue reading “Misplaced Anger”
Yes, get angry!
“‘Be angry, and do not sin’: do not let the sun go down on your wrath….” -Ephesian 4:26, NKJV God judgeth the righteous, and God is angry with the wicked every day. -Psalm 7:11, KJV Anger can be a gift. We ought to become angry over unrighteousness as God is angry over such things. … Continue reading “Yes, get angry!”
Their “honesty”
“I felt like I had to lie because you would get angry if you knew,” says Cheater. What the Cheater is really saying is that they feared not having complete control over you once you were no longer in the dark about the truth. Knowledge is power as the saying goes. They did not feel like … Continue reading “Their “honesty””