19 And this is the condemnation, that light is come into the world, and men loved darkness rather than light, because their deeds were evil. 20 For every one that doeth evil hateth the light, neither cometh to the light, lest his deeds should be reproved. -John 3:19-20, KJV I have a theory about why some cheaters refuse to … Continue reading “Lying habit problem”
Category: Cheating
Let them leave AND move on!
But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. -I Corinthians 7:15, KJV Let the Cheater leave! If a Cheater is literally hell-bent on denying Christ by their actions, let them. This is on them. I see … Continue reading “Let them leave AND move on!”
Relief of knowing!
Relief. The months of stone-cold or downright cruel responses. Warmth disappearing overnight like a Minnesotan May blizzard. It all started to make sense. I wasn’t imagining things. The Other Man. He existed. Had existed for months! This is one of the strangest and most surreal parts of discovering infidelity. The moment of confirmation is not only … Continue reading “Relief of knowing!”
Powerless curses
As the bird by wandering, as the swallow by flying, so the curse causeless shall not come. -Proverbs 26:2, KJV Cheaters and their apologists say all sort of cruel and awful things about the faithful spouse. I would consider these things curses. They are using their mouth to degrade and attack the faithful party. It … Continue reading “Powerless curses”
“What do you know?”
“Well, what do you know?” says Cheater. This is a clear sign that your Cheater is in full-blown damage control. They want to know what is known so that they don’t “over” confess. Plus, they want to know where the leaks are so that they can plug them. I do not recommend showing all your … Continue reading ““What do you know?””
Healing words for faithful spouses
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV “Yes, it happened. She cheated on you. And that’s right: you didn’t deserve it. It’s not your fault. Not at all.” You really want to help a faithful spouse. … Continue reading “Healing words for faithful spouses”
Make it stop!
My tears have been my food day and night, while people say to me all day long, “Where is your God?” -Psalm 42:3, NIV Just make it stop! I remember how this was the feeling I had early in my divorce process from my Cheater. It made me vulnerable to doing some soppy, chumpy things. Sometimes, … Continue reading “Make it stop!”
Unmet emotional needs excuse
“You were all so busy with the kids. I felt neglected.” -Cheater “I never would have cheated if you had given me the attention he did!” -Cheater Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Your cheater may try to “justify” their sin to you. Maybe they will point to you spending too much time … Continue reading “Unmet emotional needs excuse”
Focus was the ring
“No man can serve two masters: for either he will hate the one, and love the other; or else he will hold to the one, and despise the other. Ye cannot serve God and mammon.” -Matthew 6:24, KJV “Hindsight is 20/20” as they say. Signs existed early in my first marriage indicating a mismatch of … Continue reading “Focus was the ring”
Dr. Brown Responses Underplays EAs
“…I did not have an affair, but we developed a very unhealthy and sinful soul tie.” -Dr. Brown’s email to Cantor on October 26, 2024 On February 20, 2025, BROWN was interviewed by Firefly ….. During this interview, BROWN admitted to what he called an “emotional affair” during the second half of 2001 with IS … Continue reading “Dr. Brown Responses Underplays EAs”