Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV Cheaters freely chose to marry their spouses. This free choice came with the explicit commitment to exclusiveness. That is the usual marriage vow of “forsaking all others.” Now, if … Continue reading “Marriage was chosen freely.”
Category: Cheating
No “Accidental Muffins”
“There are no ‘accidental muffins.’” I made this statement the other night about affairs. It was in reference to a video on the internet about cheating. The original poster pointed out all the steps needed to cheat and likened it to baking something. A cheater might try to pass their affair off as an accident. … Continue reading “No “Accidental Muffins””
Cheater Backhanded “Admissions”
Fools think their own way is right, but the wise listen to others. -Proverbs 12:15, NLT Sometimes the only thing a cheater might admit to doing wrong is a backhanded admission. What do I mean by “backhanded admission?” “I apologize for not speaking up sooner to tell you how you aren’t meeting my ‘needs.’” “My … Continue reading “Cheater Backhanded “Admissions””
Fruit of a wicked heart
14 Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away. 15 These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death. -James 1:14-15, NLT Fruit of a Wicket Heart Long before the affair happens, it begins in the heart of the Cheater. This is what … Continue reading “Fruit of a wicked heart”
Never divorce stance as idolatry
She saw that I divorced faithless Israel because of her adultery. But that treacherous sister Judah had no fear, and now she, too, has left me and given herself to prostitution. -Jeremiah 3:8, NLT Is the “Never Divorce” stance on marriage really just plain, old idolatry? Now, before I answer this, I want to be … Continue reading “Never divorce stance as idolatry”
Adultery is truly evil!
When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. – I Corinthians 13:11, KJV It is past time the pastors and church leaders wake up and grow up. We live in a world … Continue reading “Adultery is truly evil!”
Blinding Arrogance and Contempt
21 On the appointed day Herod, wearing his royal robes, sat on his throne and delivered a public address to the people. 22 They shouted, “This is the voice of a god, not of a man.” 23 Immediately, because Herod did not give praise to God, an angel of the Lord struck him down, and he was eaten by worms and … Continue reading “Blinding Arrogance and Contempt”
A spouse is NOT just another Option!
24 Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh. 25 And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. -Genesis 2:24-25, KJV Some Cheaters are so entitled that they treat their spouse as just another option. This entitlement … Continue reading “A spouse is NOT just another Option!”
First Step: Admitting and Owning Wrong
No one who lives in him keeps on sinning. No one who continues to sin has either seen him or known him. -I John 3:6, NIV Does the cheater willingly admit the cheating was sin? Or is the cheating minimized as something less than wrong? Does the cheater try to “justify” the cheating and lying as “not … Continue reading “First Step: Admitting and Owning Wrong”
Vulnerability and terror.
One of the hardest things to do is leave a Cheater when they hold financial power over you. You married under the premise that you’d share the bills and set up a joint household. “What’s yours is mine.” Then you discover the cheating… Maybe they even hold you in contempt for not bringing in significant … Continue reading “Vulnerability and terror.”