Hate evil and love what is good; turn your courts into true halls of justice. Perhaps even yet the Lord God of Heaven’s Armies will have mercy on the remnant of his people. -Amos 5:15, NLT I am a firm believer that injustice must first be acknowledged before we can heal from it. This step is often skipped in … Continue reading “Skipping over the injustice part”
Category: Cheating
Cheater-Speak: “I never intended to hurt you.”
“I never intended to hurt you,” says Cheater. Did you get this line (or a version of it) from your Cheater? These disordered freaks actually think this makes things better. They say this as a way to get a “pass” of sorts for their nasty, wicked behavior. They are–again–protecting themselves at the cost of caring … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I never intended to hurt you.””
Just Do NOT Engage!
Don’t answer the foolish arguments of fools, or you will become as foolish as they are. -Proverbs 26:4, NLT If someone is not willing to listen, save your breath. They have made up their mind, and you are best moving on. You do not need to stick your head into that mind-blender. Move on. Let … Continue reading “Just Do NOT Engage!”
Not linear
Grief is not linear and is not rational. I don’t know about you, but I wish this was otherwise about grief. It would be nice to say that when you’ve gone through one task then it is done. But that is NOT how grief works. It doesn’t go through orderly phases in sequence. It isn’t … Continue reading “Not linear”
A prayer to help heal and forgive
Here’s a prayer I wrote for anyone struggling letting go of anger towards a cheater and their apologist(s). This prayer serves as a reminder that we have a say in letting go of our anger, which is based on our trust in God’s character. In my experience, we have to practice choosing to let go over and … Continue reading “A prayer to help heal and forgive”
To be seen and heard!
13 Thereafter, Hagar used another name to refer to the Lord, who had spoken to her. She said, “You are the God who sees me.” She also said, “Have I truly seen the One who sees me?” 14 So that well was named Beer-lahai-roi (which means “well of the Living One who sees me”). -Genesis 16:13-14a, NLT Faithful spouses … Continue reading “To be seen and heard!”
Gonna end it on own, really?!
Ever have your Cheater offer to end the affair on their own? I mean that they offer to tell the Affair Partner privately–without you–that it is over. That offer is not worth much. You are taking the word of a liar who has demonstrated a willingness and ability to carry on a double-life. “Receipts” are … Continue reading “Gonna end it on own, really?!”
Refuse to accept ANY responsibility for THEIR actions!
For we must all appear before the judgment seat of Christ; that every one may receive the things done in his body, according to that he hath done, whether it be good or bad. -2 Corinthian 5:10, KJV Never, ever concede to even partial blame when it comes to the cheating of your partner. If … Continue reading “Refuse to accept ANY responsibility for THEIR actions!”
Not an youth problem!
Then Samuel asked, “Are these all the sons you have?” “There is still the youngest,” Jesse replied. “But he’s out in the fields watching the sheep and goats.” “Send for him at once,” Samuel said. “We will not sit down to eat until he arrives.” -I Samuel 16:11, NLT Not much has changed in years … Continue reading “Not an youth problem!”
A Hindsight Lesson
Friends, pastors, and counselors can be valuable resources; however… ….you will ultimately be the one who has to live with your decision about your marriage and answer for it before God (see 2 Cor 5:10). One of my mistakes in my marriage’s dissolution years ago was allowing far too many people into the inner sanctum … Continue reading “A Hindsight Lesson”