“Why can’t you just be open and honest with me?! I am being completely open and honest with you,” says a lying cheater in a marriage session. Openness and honesty is a noble attribute of healthy relationships. That is what makes this cheater plea so dangerous. It looks good to an outsider. Who is against openness … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “Open and honest” ploy”
Category: Cheating
Flunking Basic Christianity
The commandments, “You shall not commit adultery,” “You shall not murder,” “You shall not steal,” “You shall not covet,” and whatever other command there may be, are summed up in this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” Love does no harm to a neighbor. -Romans 13:9-10a, NIV Cheaters have been known to profess their commitment to Christianity … Continue reading “Flunking Basic Christianity”
Just because a cheater says they are a Christian does not make it so!
“Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven.” -Matthew 7:21, NIV Confessing “Christian” Cheaters One of the most confusing part of dealing with adultery and general infidelity discoveries is how they do not fit with the … Continue reading “Just because a cheater says they are a Christian does not make it so!”
Reconciliation, NOT Restoration
And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation. – 2 Corinthians 5:19b, NIV Reconciled to friendship, NOT marriage! What often bothers me about Christians talking about marriages ravaged by adultery is how “reconciliation” is thrown about as the same thing as marriage restoration. It is not. A former couple could experience true reconciliation … Continue reading “Reconciliation, NOT Restoration”
Messy openness
The lips of the wise give good advice; the heart of a fool has none to give. -Proverbs 15:7, NLT When I was desperate to stop my first marriage from ending, I made the mistake of opening myself up to too many people. It was messy. I think part of this mistake was born of … Continue reading “Messy openness”
Lectures from spiritually blind Cheater Apologists
“But you have turned from the way and by your teaching have caused many to stumble; you have violated the covenant with Levi,” says the Lord Almighty. -Malachi 2:8, NIV More than one of my (now) ex-wife’s family members took it upon themselves to lecture me about how I needed to be a better Christian and … Continue reading “Lectures from spiritually blind Cheater Apologists”
God’s opinion matters most!
Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe. -Proverbs 29:25, NIV If God is for us,who can be against us? -Romans 8:31b, NIV Trust God, Fear NOT “Man!” My anxiety often escalates when I start concerning myself with the opinions of “man” over what I know is God’s verdict … Continue reading “God’s opinion matters most!”
Singing through the desert experience
His wife said to him, “Are you still maintaining your integrity? Curse God and die!” -Job 2:9, NIV These words were uttered by a woman who had just suffered catastrophic loss with her husband, Job. They had loss their considerable wealth, servants, their children, and even Job’s own health. It was bleak. When faced with great … Continue reading “Singing through the desert experience”
Emotional Affair sign
“Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.” -Matthew 19:6, NLT When your wife is more concerned about the opinion of her male “friend” than she is of her husband, you can be assured she has crossed over to an emotional affair, minimally. This is … Continue reading “Emotional Affair sign”
Cheater Apologist: “We are all sinners, after all.”
“We are all sinners, after all.” -Cheater Apologist This lame religious excuse may be heard coming from the adulterous spouse and/or other Christian “apologists” seeking “neutral” ground in this situation. While it sounds wise and caring, it is really an extremely poor application of Biblical truth to the situation. It is an example of something … Continue reading “Cheater Apologist: “We are all sinners, after all.””