If a man be found lying with a woman married to an husband, then they shall both of them die, both the man that lay with the woman, and the woman: so shalt thou put away evil from Israel. -Deuteronomy 22:22, KJV Too often, adultery is treated as a private matter between the faithful … Continue reading “Adultery impacts the community”
Category: Cheating
Eyes opened.
When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things. -I Corinthians 13:11, NKJV I was dangerously naive in my first marriage. This was very apparent to me as I entered through the valley … Continue reading “Eyes opened.”
Is God’s forgiveness for everyone?
“It was also written that this message would be proclaimed in the authority of his name to all the nations, beginning in Jerusalem: ‘There is forgiveness of sins for all who repent.’” -Luke 24:47, NLT (emphasis mine) Is God’s forgiveness for all? As I was preparing for this Sunday’s sermon, this verse jumped out at … Continue reading “Is God’s forgiveness for everyone?”
Were not looking for it!
Even when filing the divorce papers, the faithful spouse really did not choose this outcome. What they chose was a marriage free of infidelity! The filing of the papers was the choice they had left after the choice of the cheater to destroy the agreed upon future by being unfaithful. The good options–the preferred option–was … Continue reading “Were not looking for it!”
Anger fades with work and passage of time
God is a just judge, And God is angry with the wicked every day. -Psalm 7:11, NKJV Anger is a healthy, godly response to adultery. I will say that again: Anger is a healthy, godly response to adultery. When we do not feel angry over such injustice and wickedness, something is seriously wrong with our walk with the Lord. He is angry … Continue reading “Anger fades with work and passage of time”
But they’re prospering!
“But Abraham replied, ‘Son, remember that in your lifetime you received your good things, while Lazarus received bad things, but now he is comforted here and you are in agony.’” -Luke 16:25, NIV “But they’re prospering! How is that just?!” -Faithful Spouse I am not immune to the feelings of frustration over my cheater’s apparent … Continue reading “But they’re prospering!”
Misplaced hope
So God has given both his promise and his oath. These two things are unchangeable because it is impossible for God to lie. Therefore, we who have fled to him for refuge can have great confidence as we hold to the hope that lies before us. -Hebrews 6:18, NIV Are we placing our hope in … Continue reading “Misplaced hope”
Dire warnings from Hebrews 6
It is impossible to bring such people back to repentance…. 7 When the ground soaks up the falling rain and bears a good crop for the farmer, it has God’s blessing. 8 But if a field bears thorns and thistles, it is useless. The farmer will soon condemn that field and burn it. -Hebrews 6:6b, 7-8, NLT The … Continue reading “Dire warnings from Hebrews 6”
Beware of sand foundations!
But anyone who hears my teaching and doesn’t obey it is foolish, like a person who builds a house on sand. -Matthew 7:26, NLT We all know it is a sand foundation. This is the truth of trying to rebuild a marriage with the infidelity left unaddressed or treated as a “minor” problem. The marriage … Continue reading “Beware of sand foundations!”
Shallow people
“This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth and says, ‘I’ve done nothing wrong.’” -Proverbs 30:20, NIV This verse could easily be said of cheating men as well. They all have a shallow understanding of “love.” The marriage relationship is turned into an exchange rather than a commitment. So, … Continue reading “Shallow people”