But she said she would never…

She said she would would never cheat on me. No matter how difficult the marriage became, we were (supposedly) committed to each other. Cheating was not on the table. You see this is what makes infidelity so hard to believe. Cheating flies in the face of explicit promises made by the faithful spouse–husband or wife. … Continue reading “But she said she would never…”

Easier to blame than repent

+Picture of a mole caught in a trap But let man and beast be covered with sackcloth, and cry mightily unto God: yea, let them turn every one from his evil way, and from the violence that is in their hands. -Jonah 3:8, KJV Let’s be honest: Repenting and facing one’s “demons” is hard work! This is … Continue reading “Easier to blame than repent”

Cheater-Speak: “I can’t keep pretending…”

“I can’t keep pretending everything is fine,” says Cheater. What this really means is the Cheater is tired of hiding their contempt for the faithful spouse. They are declaring it is too much. So, they will now display their contempt openly. The cheater has no real problem with pretending as long as it advantages them. They … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I can’t keep pretending…””

Cheater Apologist: “But was there anything true in his criticism?”

“Sure, some of what he stated was false. But was there anything true in his criticism of you?” -Cheater Supporter He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?” -Genesis 3:1b, NIV Danger! Danger! Danger! When a cheater apologist encourages you to dig in the … Continue reading “Cheater Apologist: “But was there anything true in his criticism?””

Walking on water with the Lord

So Peter stepped out onto the water and began to walk toward Jesus. 30 But when he realized how high the waves were, he became frightened and started to sink. “Save me, Lord!” he cried out. 31 Jesus immediately stretched out his hand and lifted him up and said, “What little faith you have! Why would you let doubt … Continue reading “Walking on water with the Lord”

Exposing accepted adultery and divorce “wisdom”

Don’t let anyone capture you with empty philosophies and high-sounding nonsense that come from human thinking and from the spiritual powers of this world, rather than from Christ. -Colossians 2:8, NLT So much advice or counsel in the church on adultery and divorce is “high-sounding nonsense” in my opinion. Most do not approach the topic … Continue reading “Exposing accepted adultery and divorce “wisdom””

Religious behavior does not fool God

For day after day they seek me out;     they seem eager to know my ways, as if they were a nation that does what is right     and has not forsaken the commands of its God. -Isaiah 58:2, NIV Some cheaters excel at doing things that make them look like “good” Christians. That is part of the trauma … Continue reading “Religious behavior does not fool God”