Look at the ravens. They don’t plant or harvest or store food in barns, for God feeds them. And you are far more valuable to him than any birds! – Luke 12:24, NLT Words are weighted. It is harder to dismiss hurtful words from someone who is close to us than from some stranger. … Continue reading “Cheaters Underestimate Faithful Spouses’ Worth”
Category: Demons and Spiritual Warfare
Was Jesus “Damaged Goods”?
Surely he hath borne our griefs, and carried our sorrows: yet we did esteem him stricken, smitten of God, and afflicted. But he was wounded for our transgressions, he was bruised for our iniquities: the chastisement of our peace was upon him; and with his stripes we are healed. -Isaiah 53:4-5, KJV Satan is not … Continue reading “Was Jesus “Damaged Goods”?”
Top 5 DM Blog Posts of 2015
Top Five DM Blog Posts For 2015 This past year has been a busy year on Divorce Minister. It marks the first full calendar year that Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously has exited. Below is a countdown of my top five visited stories for 2015 (only counting posts written this year). These posts received hundreds … Continue reading “Top 5 DM Blog Posts of 2015”
Using Our Spiritual Eyes
Early in the morning a servant of the Holy Man got up and went out. Surprise! Horses and chariots surrounding the city! The young man exclaimed, “Oh, master! What shall we do?” He said, “Don’t worry about it—there are more on our side than on their side.” Then Elisha prayed, “O God, open his eyes … Continue reading “Using Our Spiritual Eyes”
Cheater-speak: “Well, if we all become friends afterwards, then we all will be okay.”
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV The “solution” of making friends with the Other Man/Other Woman after discovering infidelity is a “solution” only a very self-deceived and/or depraved individual could conceive. It is absolutely ludicrous … Continue reading “Cheater-speak: “Well, if we all become friends afterwards, then we all will be okay.””
“Disappointing The Ultimate Authority” Handle
When my divorce was going through against my will (at the time), I experienced heightened spiritual distress. This was distress over disappointing the Ultimate Authority–i.e. God. Cognitively, I understood that I had no power to stop the divorce. My best friend spoke the truth to me earlier in September when he called out that … Continue reading ““Disappointing The Ultimate Authority” Handle”
“Spotlight” Movie Thoughts
“‘How do you say no to God?’”- Victim Yesterday, I went to a local theater to watch the movie “Spotlight.” This movie is about the Catholic Child Sexual Abuse Scandal as broken by the Spotlight group out of the Boston Globe. It is based on that true story from 2001-2003. The movie is truly heartbreaking. … Continue reading ““Spotlight” Movie Thoughts”
The Greatest Cheater Vice
And he gives grace generously. As the Scriptures say, “God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble.” So humble yourselves before God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. -James 4:6-7, NLT PRIDE… …is the greatest–and spiritually deadliest–cheater vice. Pride says, “I will never get caught.” Pride says, “I deserve to be ‘happy.’” … Continue reading “The Greatest Cheater Vice”
If he can’t get the pastor to cheat…
…Satan can target his spouse to eliminate another shepherd. Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour… – I Peter 5:8, KJV But if you are always biting and devouring one another, watch out! Beware of destroying one another. – Galatians 5:15, NLT … Continue reading “If he can’t get the pastor to cheat…”
Truly Repentant Cheaters Stop Managing Their Image
Surrendering Their Image Control A key piece in the testimony given by W. Paul Young, the author of The Shack, was how he did not make an excuse or try to hide the fact of his infidelity. He stopped trying to pretend or control how people perceived him. And, certainly, he did not put a muzzle on … Continue reading “Truly Repentant Cheaters Stop Managing Their Image”