“I just want open and honest communication,” says Cheater. Do Cheaters really want honesty and openness? No way! Cheating is no fun when you are faced with consequences that come with open honesty with your victim–i.e. the faithful spouse. Two-sided openness is such a drag for those committed to a lifestyle of deception. When Cheaters say that … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I just want open and honest communication.””
Category: Demons and Spiritual Warfare
Built up negative marriage fantasy
“Why is my language not clear to you? Because you are unable to hear what I say.” -John 8:43, NIV “When he [the devil] speaks a lie, he speaks from his own resources, for he is a liar and the father of it. But because I tell the truth, you do not believe Me.” -John … Continue reading “Built up negative marriage fantasy”
Wondering… Do they?
I wonder… …do some Cheaters ever even consider they might be the problem. Of course, the usual course of these things is to externalize the problem. They blame their spouse. Or they might blame the affair partner. Another candidate might be the stresses of work. Cheaters have a long list of things or people to blame … Continue reading “Wondering… Do they?”
Pentecost: Gifts of Holy Spirit
On the day of Pentecost all the believers were meeting together in one place. -Acts 2:1, NLT Holy Spirit played an important role in my recovery story. His gifts saw me through a very, very dark time. I had just discovered the Other Man who was later confirmed to be party to a physical affair … Continue reading “Pentecost: Gifts of Holy Spirit”
Fruit of a wicked heart
14 Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away. 15 These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death. -James 1:14-15, NLT Fruit of a Wicket Heart Long before the affair happens, it begins in the heart of the Cheater. This is what … Continue reading “Fruit of a wicked heart”
Adultery is truly evil!
When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. – I Corinthians 13:11, KJV It is past time the pastors and church leaders wake up and grow up. We live in a world … Continue reading “Adultery is truly evil!”
Need Supportive Voices
Moses’ arms soon became so tired he could no longer hold them up. So Aaron and Hur found a stone for him to sit on. Then they stood on each side of Moses, holding up his hands. So his hands held steady until sunset. -Exodus 17:12, NLT We all need an “Aaron” and a “Hur” … Continue reading “Need Supportive Voices”
Cheated On Support Group Coming!!!
Cheated On Support Group Starting Tuesday, May 7th! At Destiny Church, Rochester, MN I have decided that it is time to launch an in-person support group for faithful spouses and their supporters. This support group will start in Rochester (MN), and I will see what response I find from folks. If it goes well, I … Continue reading “Cheated On Support Group Coming!!!”
SO many lies!
You belong to your father, the devil…. When he lies, he speaks his native language, for he is a liar and the father of lies. -John 8:44a, c, NIV SO MANY LIES! You cannot cheat, I believe, without lying. The Cheater is lying to others besides their partner. Plus, I believe they start by lying … Continue reading “SO many lies!”
Eric Volz messed up view on Clergy Sexual Abuse in interview re: IHOPKC
“… and I think there is a certain number of practitioners [trauma informed investigators] that The Advocate Group would only accept because it would increase the likelihood that there would be abuse found in their investigation. So, for example, there are people that would say anytime someone in ministry has any form of sexual contact … Continue reading “Eric Volz messed up view on Clergy Sexual Abuse in interview re: IHOPKC”