Don’t just pretend to love others. Really love them. Hate what is wrong. Hold tightly to what is good. -Romans 12:9, NLT Real Christians hate adultery because adultery is wrong! You would think this is a given among Christians and pastors, but faithful spouses–like myself–have discovered otherwise. This good hate is conspicuously absent. In fact,I … Continue reading “Real Christians hate adultery!”
Category: Emotional Affair
PSA: Being “miserable” is no excuse to cheat!
Public Service Announcement: Being “miserable” is no excuse to cheat! What astounds me is how some pastors do not think this one through very well. They “joke” about their wives “putting up” with them even in the presence of a divorce pastor whose wife cheated on him. They fail to see how insensitive that “joke” … Continue reading “PSA: Being “miserable” is no excuse to cheat!”
Pastors, Let’s leave divorce off the vice lists!
Pastors, let us strike “divorce” from our list of social ills and vices! Before going through a divorce myself, I probably never would have understood the importance of this simple move. I was not sensitized to the subtle shaming messages such inclusion sends. What I have noticed is how pastors and other Christian leaders will … Continue reading “Pastors, Let’s leave divorce off the vice lists!”
Cutting the Cord
When at a conference following the fresh official end to my first marriage, I was given some solid advice about my future. Like two ships untying their lines from a dock, I was told to let my ex-wife sail her ship away as I did the same. It was about cutting the cord and going … Continue reading “Cutting the Cord”
Divorce Shame Evil!
And Joseph her husband, being a righteous man and not wanting to disgrace her, planned to divorce her secretly. -Matthew 1:19, NASB (footnote alternate translation used) Divorce Shame Evil! When Christian leaders rail against divorce under all circumstances, they are engaging in an evil practice of which they may not be aware. They may not see … Continue reading “Divorce Shame Evil!”
Naive Christians Will Never Understand
“And whosoever will not receive you, when ye go out of that city, shake off the very dust from your feet for a testimony against them.” -Luke 9:5, KJV Some cheaters are unfit company. The best we can do is limit or end our contact with some individuals who refuse to bend the knee to … Continue reading “Naive Christians Will Never Understand”
And then the cheating is uncovered.
…and be sure your sin will find you out. -Numbers 32:23b, KJV All those emotionally cold counseling meetings. All the finger-pointing and fault-finding sessions. All the anger over what seemed petty yet was treated as “life and death” marriage problems. …then the cheating is uncovered, and it all starts to make sense. While it … Continue reading “And then the cheating is uncovered.”
Mess? That’s the real Christmas.
Gabriel appeared to her and said, “Greetings, favored woman! The Lord is with you!” -Luke 1:28, NLT Merry Christmas! Whether this is truly a day of celebration or merely a day to endure, I think much is present to encourage. Both was the case on the first Christmas. It was not all singing angels and wonderfulness. … Continue reading “Mess? That’s the real Christmas.”
Divorce And the Original Christmas Story
This is how the birth of Jesus the Messiah came about: His mother Mary was pledged to be married to Joseph, but before they came together, she was found to be pregnant through the Holy Spirit. Because Joseph her husband was faithful to the law, and yet did not want to expose her to public disgrace, … Continue reading “Divorce And the Original Christmas Story”
Crummy Cheaters on Christmas
What is it about the holiday season that seems to bring out the worse in cheaters? I will never forget the winter flight I took home alone with an empty seat next to mine. My cheater had decided that she could not emotionally hack a Christmas with my family. Instead, she stayed with a “Brutus … Continue reading “Crummy Cheaters on Christmas”