The Lord blessed the latter days of Job more than his beginning…. -Job 42:12a, NASB So much is done within the Church to reinforce fears concerning divorce. Even a ministry I generally recommend for those divorcing a cheating spouse, DivorceCare, does this to some extent. They certainly do not encourage divorce–even when, I believe, that … Continue reading “Better Days Ahead!”
Category: Emotional Affair
Painful Absence
You have removed lover and friend far from me; My acquaintances are in darkness. -Psalm 88:18, NASB Holidays can be especially painful when you find yourself recently bereft of your spouse or long-time partner. Honestly, some of the most painful parts of my marriage ending was adjusting to no longer having my spouse with me … Continue reading “Painful Absence”
Bridges FOR Burning!
I meant that you are not to associate with anyone who claims to be a believer yet indulges in sexual sin, or is greedy, or worships idols, or is abusive, or is a drunkard, or cheats people. Don’t even eat with such people. – I Corinthians 5:11, NLT Some bridges need burning! I am thinking of … Continue reading “Bridges FOR Burning!”
“It doesn’t matter matter what she did.”
“It doesn’t matter what she did. You need to focus on your own sins.” – Cheater Apologist This sort of response is the very definition of dismissive. It has all the appearance of godliness without the substance. Of course, adultery–i.e. the victimization of faithful spouses–matters to God! When someone responds by being dismissive of adultery or … Continue reading ““It doesn’t matter matter what she did.””
Peace NOT Friendship
If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. -Romans 12:18, NIV Notice what this verse does and does not say: 1. It DOES NOT say–or set the expectation–that we are friends with everyone. 2. It DOES say–i.e. acknowledges–that peace with some people is impossible. These are very important truths … Continue reading “Peace NOT Friendship”
It IS Upsetting!
At every street corner you built your lofty shrines and degraded your beauty, spreading your legs with increasing promiscuity to anyone who passed by. … ‘I am filled with fury against you, declares the Sovereign Lord, when you do all these things, acting like a brazen prostitute!’ -Ezekiel 16:25, 30, NIV If God is this upset … Continue reading “It IS Upsetting!”
Love & Divorce
This is what the LORD says: “Where is your mother’s certificate of divorce with which I sent her away? …Because of your sins you were sold; because of your transgressions your mother was sent away. -Isaiah 50:1a,c, NIV Is divorcing a spouse incompatible with loving a spouse? In other words, do you have to hate … Continue reading “Love & Divorce”
DM Video: “Is it really ‘just’ an emotional affair?”
Is it really ‘just’ an emotional affair? This is another installment in my vlogging adventure. Click on the title above for the blog link to the text this video is based upon. Enjoy!
“MY money! MY Privacy!!”
“No one can serve two masters. For you will hate one and love the other; you will be devoted to one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.” -Luke 16:13, NLT Cheaters are quick to play the “offended card” when caught cheating. They suddenly are emphatic about what is due to … Continue reading ““MY money! MY Privacy!!””
Lectured on Real Repentance Irony
“‘These people honor me with their lips, but their hearts are far from me.’” -Matthew15:8, NIV My tolerance for religious hypocrisy was low before going through my divorce. That tolerance was lowered even further through my experience with more than my fair share of religious hypocrites in my marriage’s dissolution and aftermath. These were people … Continue reading “Lectured on Real Repentance Irony”