Pro-Tip: When the Cheater is more concerned about how you found out than the damaged they did to you, then you know they are not remorseful. This is the behavior of someone who is looking for the source of the leaked information. People ask such questions to continue their behavior. They are looking to plug … Continue reading “More concerned about how you found out”
Category: Emotional Affair
Signs: Emotional Affairs
To those who have no sense she says, “Stolen water is sweet; food eaten in secret is delicious!” But little do they know that the dead are there, that her guests are deep in the realm of the dead. -Proverbs 9:16b-18, NIV Signs: Emotional Affairs I do not think affairs happen as the result of one … Continue reading “Signs: Emotional Affairs”
Relief of knowing!
Relief. The months of stone-cold or downright cruel responses. Warmth disappearing overnight like a Minnesotan May blizzard. It all started to make sense. I wasn’t imagining things. The Other Man. He existed. Had existed for months! This is one of the strangest and most surreal parts of discovering infidelity. The moment of confirmation is not only … Continue reading “Relief of knowing!”
“What do you know?”
“Well, what do you know?” says Cheater. This is a clear sign that your Cheater is in full-blown damage control. They want to know what is known so that they don’t “over” confess. Plus, they want to know where the leaks are so that they can plug them. I do not recommend showing all your … Continue reading ““What do you know?””
Healing words for faithful spouses
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV “Yes, it happened. She cheated on you. And that’s right: you didn’t deserve it. It’s not your fault. Not at all.” You really want to help a faithful spouse. … Continue reading “Healing words for faithful spouses”
Unmet emotional needs excuse
“You were all so busy with the kids. I felt neglected.” -Cheater “I never would have cheated if you had given me the attention he did!” -Cheater Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Your cheater may try to “justify” their sin to you. Maybe they will point to you spending too much time … Continue reading “Unmet emotional needs excuse”
Dr. Brown Responses Underplays EAs
“…I did not have an affair, but we developed a very unhealthy and sinful soul tie.” -Dr. Brown’s email to Cantor on October 26, 2024 On February 20, 2025, BROWN was interviewed by Firefly ….. During this interview, BROWN admitted to what he called an “emotional affair” during the second half of 2001 with IS … Continue reading “Dr. Brown Responses Underplays EAs”
Crazy ride? No thanks.
To heal, we have to acknowledge the truth. The sad thing is our cheater may never actually do this. They might engage you in an endless battle over getting you to take responsibility for their abuse of you. That argument is one crazy ride. Refuse to take the bait. While helpful, you do not have … Continue reading “Crazy ride? No thanks.”
Never really loved you
Some Cheaters are in loved with being loved. The value that they placed on their relationship with you was in how you adored and pursued them. As soon as that slipped, they started thinking about finding another supply of adoration. In other words, it was always about themselves. They never really loved you for you. … Continue reading “Never really loved you”
Complacent Cheating
This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth, And says, “I have done no wickedness.” -Proverbs 30:20, NKJV Cheaters can get complacent in their cheating. Because they have such big egos and such high contempt for their spouse, they may fail to keep up the deception. Their “game” slips and then … Continue reading “Complacent Cheating”