Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV Even–maybe especially–when caught red-handed and finally acknowledging their infidelity, cheaters will STILL try to shift the attention onto the faithful spouse’s “deficiencies.” The majority of their confession is light … Continue reading “Cannot Help Themselves”
Category: Emotional Affair
On Sin and Difficult Circumstances
“What have you done?” asked Samuel. Saul replied, “When I saw that the men were scattering, and that you did not come at the set time, and that the Philistines were assembling at Mikmash, I thought, ‘Now the Philistines will come down against me at Gilgal, and I have not sought the Lord’s favor.’ So … Continue reading “On Sin and Difficult Circumstances”
When a lack of sex (or attention) is treated as the cause…
“For it is from within, out of a person’s heart, that evil thoughts come—sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, greed, malice, deceit, lewdness, envy, slander, arrogance and folly. All these evils come from inside and defile a person.” -Mark 7:21-23, NIV When a lack of sex (or attention) is treated as the cause… Infidelity is not … Continue reading “When a lack of sex (or attention) is treated as the cause…”
More Attention? More Sex?
The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. -I Corinthians 7:3, NIV Cheaters like to shift the blame upon faithful spouses after the fact! -A cheating husband might attack his wife by talking about how he would never have cheated if they had had more sex. -A … Continue reading “More Attention? More Sex?”
Cheater-Speak: “Our relationship was toxic.”
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Did I miss something? When I read this verse–part of the Ten Commandments–I don’t see where it says, “Thou shalt not commit adultery unless [you believe] your marriage is a toxic relationship.” I don’t see it because it is NOT there! This is an especially lame cheater excuse or … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “Our relationship was toxic.””
Some Healthy and Godly Boundaries
“If your brother or sister sins against you, rebuke them; and if they repent, forgive them.” -Luke 17:3b, NIV Confusion is great dealing with a cheater. Sadly, pastors and other Christian leaders too often do not help faithful spouses through this confusion. They add to it in an attempt to look impartial and “professional.” These are … Continue reading “Some Healthy and Godly Boundaries”
God Is Wrathful Towards the Adulterous!
I will sentence you to the punishment of women who commit adultery and who shed blood; I will bring on you the blood vengeance of my wrath and jealous anger. -Ezekiel 16:38, NIV God is neither meek or neutral when it comes to adultery. Rather, He is righteously wrathful! A godly response to adultery–as we … Continue reading “God Is Wrathful Towards the Adulterous!”
Never speak of “it” again? But God did!
“Have you seen what faithless Israel has done? She has gone up on every high hill and under every spreading tree and has committed adultery there.” -Jeremiah 3:6b, NIV Yes, you are an adulterous wife who takes in strangers instead of her own husband. -Ezekiel 16:32, NLT They are unfaithful to the … Continue reading “Never speak of “it” again? But God did!”
Seared Consciences
But the [Holy] Spirit explicitly and unmistakably declares that in later times some will turn away from the faith…[misled] by the hypocrisy of liars whose consciences are seared as with a branding iron [leaving them incapable of ethical functioning]…. -I Timothy 4:1a,2, AMP When a cheater is telling their spouse, pastor, and/or Christian counselor that … Continue reading “Seared Consciences”
Analogy: So, if a murderer kills a sick person, does that mean she isn’t a murderer?!
Don’t you realize that your bodies are actually parts of Christ? Should a man take his body, which is part of Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never! -I Corinthians 6:15, NLT Christians seem especially shy in assigning blame to a cheater for destroying his or her marriage. Many seem to believe or operate … Continue reading “Analogy: So, if a murderer kills a sick person, does that mean she isn’t a murderer?!”