And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce; yet her treacherous sister Judah feared not, but went and played the harlot also. -Jeremiah 3:8, KJV Issues With “For the Marriage” Pastoral Stance Sometimes, pastors, you cannot both be … Continue reading “A certain pastoral stance”
Category: Emotional Affair
Believe truth!
For the word of God is alive and powerful. It is sharper than the sharpest two-edged sword, cutting between soul and spirit, between joint and marrow. It exposes our innermost thoughts and desires. -Hebrews 4:12, NLT Do not get your beliefs from your cheater! They are liars. Plus, their lies are designed for their own … Continue reading “Believe truth!”
Simple Commandment
Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV I wonder how this simple and clear commandment has become second fiddle to couples’ counseling “wisdom” for so many pastors. So much time goes into the “why” of the cheating and little time is spent on pointing out the willful nature of the sin. In other words, … Continue reading “Simple Commandment”
The gut knows
This morning I was watching a reel on my phone. In this reel, a man called into a show and shared about his troubled marriage. He talked about how his wife had an “emotional affair.” The host and the caller go back and forth about what he should have done as a husband. Then the … Continue reading “The gut knows”
Cheater: Pharisee or Enemy?
And whoever compels you to go one mile, go with him two. -Matthew 5:41, NKJV In the same way, on the outside you appear to people as righteous but on the inside you are full of hypocrisy and wickedness. -Matthew 23:28, NIV When dealing with a “Christian” cheater, another level of complexity is placed on Christians … Continue reading “Cheater: Pharisee or Enemy?”
Hard truth: Not everyone will be reasonable.
“Now think it over and see what you can do, because disaster is hanging over our master and his whole household. He is such a wicked man that no one can talk to him.” -Servant to Abigail, I Samuel 25:17, NIV This verse comes from the story of David, Abigail, and Nabal recorded in I … Continue reading “Hard truth: Not everyone will be reasonable.”
Pro-Tip: Cheaters might just be projecting onto you!
Pro-Tip: Do not be shocked if they project their own issues onto you! Cheaters are not very good at owning their own behaviors. But they do excel at blaming others for their misdeeds. So, it should come as no surprise that the “sins” or “misdeeds” that they accused their spouses of are likely the misdeeds … Continue reading “Pro-Tip: Cheaters might just be projecting onto you!”
Kingdom Incompatibility
How can righteousness be a partner with wickedness? How can light live with darkness? -2 Corinthians 6:14b, NLT Cheaters have declared allegiance to the Kingdom of Darkness by their choices and actions. They speak in the language of their chosen kingdom–i.e. lies–and they choose to walk in darkness instead of light. This is the fundamental … Continue reading “Kingdom Incompatibility”
Taking on too much!
I took on way too much blame in my first marriage. It was a symptom of my desire to “save” it. I was desperate to keep the relationship together. So, I would “confess” my sins to my (now) ex-wife in an effort to demonstrate that I would do better so that she’d stay. What a … Continue reading “Taking on too much!”
Not Cheap!
Therefore if you bring your gift to the altar, and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar, and go your way. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift. -Matthew 5:23-24, NKJV “God forgives me. So what’s your problem?!” -Cheater Does … Continue reading “Not Cheap!”