Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV I wonder how this commandment has become second fiddle to couples’ counseling “wisdom” for so many pastors. So much time goes into the “why” of the cheating and little time is spent on pointing out the willful nature of the sin. In other words, pastors can be … Continue reading “Thou shalt not commit adultery period!”
Category: Emotional Affair
Why keep blogging about taking adultery seriously?
He has shown you, O mortal, what is good. And what does the Lord require of you? To act justly and to love mercy and to walk humbly with your God. -Micah 6:8, NIV Divorce Minister: Taking Adultery Seriously is an online ministry born from my personal experience and a pastoral need. That need is still there. … Continue reading “Why keep blogging about taking adultery seriously?”
Why did you choose to sin?
For we must all stand before Christ to be judged. We will each receive whatever we deserve for the good or evil we have done in this earthly body. -2 Corinthians 5:10, NLT “Why did you choose to sin?” This is the question for the cheater. Until they understand the answer to this, they cannot repent. The … Continue reading “Why did you choose to sin?”
Cultivate the discipline of gratitude
Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?” – Genesis 3:1, NIV As a hospice chaplain*, I see many different sorts of people on a daily basis. Often times, my … Continue reading “Cultivate the discipline of gratitude”
Power not marriage
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. -Ephesians 5:21, NIV I am convinced some cheaters treat marriage issues as power struggles. They refuse to submit to their spouse as they find it offensive to actually “lose” in any way. To them, the idea of humbling themselves and truly repenting is repulsive. This is why … Continue reading “Power not marriage”
“The road to Hell….”
“The road to Hell is paved… …with good intentions.” -A proverb This saying is a wise one to remember when dealing with the aftermath that comes following infidelity discovery. It applies both to the actual cheater and to those who profess they are only giving “care.” “I never intended to hurt you.” – Cheater … Continue reading ““The road to Hell….””
Hate evil! Have a heart after God’s.
Ye that love the Lord, hate evil: he preserveth the souls of his saints; he delivereth them out of the hand of the wicked. – Psalm 97:10, KJV Do you love the Lord? The command here in the Psalms is rather clear: Hate evil! It is strong language. But this is what Scripture teaches us. … Continue reading “Hate evil! Have a heart after God’s.”
PSA: A partial truth is still a lie.
Now the serpent was more crafty than any of the wild animals the Lord God had made. He said to the woman, “Did God really say, ‘You must not eat from any tree in the garden’?” – Genesis 3:1, NIV Public Service Announcement (PSA): A partial truth is still a lie. Some of the greatest … Continue reading “PSA: A partial truth is still a lie.”
How a church or denomination responds to faithful pastors getting divorced says a lot.
How evangelicals respond to tragedy in a pastor’s life says a lot about their character and real theology. It also speaks to their maturity and wisdom as a church or religious body. Sadly, I experienced and have heard many epic fails in this area. It is one thing to say that you love your pastor, and quite … Continue reading “How a church or denomination responds to faithful pastors getting divorced says a lot.”
Not everyone is going to be reasonable.
“Now think it over and see what you can do, because disaster is hanging over our master and his whole household. He is such a wicked man that no one can talk to him.” -Servant to Abigail, I Samuel 25:17, NIV This verse comes from the story of David, Abigail, and Nabal recorded in I … Continue reading “Not everyone is going to be reasonable.”