“Why can’t you just be open and honest with me?! I am being completely open and honest with you,” says a lying cheater in couples therapy. Openness and honesty is a noble attribute of healthy relationships. That is what makes this cheater plea so dangerous. It looks good to an outsider. In fact, it might … Continue reading “Cheater demanding you be “open and honest””
Category: Emotional Affair
Most basic moral code failure
Jesus replied. “There is only One who is good. If you want to enter life, keep the commandments.” “Which ones?” he inquired. Jesus replied, “‘You shall not murder, you shall not commit adultery, you shall not steal, you shall not give false testimony…” -Matthew 19:17b-18, NIV Keeping the Ten Commandments are required for entering (eternal) life per … Continue reading “Most basic moral code failure”
Committing adultery is evidence of flunking Christianity 101.
The commandments, “You shall not commit adultery,” “You shall not murder,” “You shall not steal,” “You shall not covet,” and whatever other command there may be, are summed up in this one command: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” Love does no harm to a neighbor. -Romans 13:9-10a, NIV Cheaters have been known to profess their commitment to Christianity … Continue reading “Committing adultery is evidence of flunking Christianity 101.”
A confessing Christian cheater may not be a Christian
“Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven.” -Matthew 7:21, NIV Confessing “Christian” Cheaters One of the most confusing part of dealing with adultery and general infidelity discoveries is how they do not fit with the … Continue reading “A confessing Christian cheater may not be a Christian”
Did you love her?
“Did you ever love her?” OR “Did you ever love him?” This is such a simply stated question. However, it is far from simple when applied to a cheater. Looking back on the marriage and how it ended, it is complicated. How can you say you ever loved someone who revealed they were utterly different … Continue reading “Did you love her?”
Religious lectures from cheater apologists
“But you have turned from the way and by your teaching have caused many to stumble; you have violated the covenant with Levi,” says the Lord Almighty. -Malachi 2:8, NIV More than one of my (now) ex-wife’s family members took it upon themselves to lecture me about how I needed to be a better Christian husband. … Continue reading “Religious lectures from cheater apologists”
An emotional affair give away
“Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together.” -Matthew 19:6, NLT When your wife is more concerned about the opinion of her male “friend” than she is of her husband, you can be assured she has crossed over to an emotional affair, minimally. This is … Continue reading “An emotional affair give away”
Just keep your word.
Who may enter your presence on your holy hill? … Those who despise flagrant sinners, and honor the faithful followers of the Lord, and keep their promises even when it hurts. -Psalm 15:1b, 4, NLT A certain behavior really angers me. It is when people tell me one thing and do the opposite. It is something … Continue reading “Just keep your word.”
Falwell Affair News
Rueters dropped the explosive allegations that Jerry Falwell Jr. and Becki Falwell, his wife, were involved sexually with a young man, Giancarlo Granda. The specifics of the allegation include sexual relationships with Becki Falwell while Jerry Falwall Jr. watched. This happened allegedly over the years of 2012 to 2018. Jerry Falwall Jr confirmed in the … Continue reading “Falwell Affair News”
Cheater-Speak: “I was afraid. That is why I lied to you.”
“I was afraid of your reaction. That is why I lied.” -Cheater Like a child who did wrong, a cheater sometimes feigns fear in order to avoid accountability.* They equate a righteous anger response with reason or justification to lie to the spouse they have wronged. It is not godly. It is another reason I … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I was afraid. That is why I lied to you.””