“I’m concerned that you will hold this [affair] over my head forever if I stay,” Cheater declares. A cheater who makes such a statement is still more concerned about themselves than the trauma they inflicted on their spouse by cheating. The statement really is revealing. Such a cheater still believes it is about their wishes … Continue reading “A cheater worrying about you “forever holding it against” them”
Category: Forgiveness
Restitution is a true sorry.
Meanwhile, Zacchaeus stood before the Lord and said, “I will give half my wealth to the poor, Lord, and if I have cheated people on their taxes, I will give them back four times as much!” -Luke 19:8, NLT Sorry is a beginning. A true sorry is one backed by actions demonstrating an effort to … Continue reading “Restitution is a true sorry.”
Repentance is key to godly forgiveness
“4 Or those eighteen, upon whom the tower in Siloam fell, and slew them, think ye that they were sinners above all men that dwelt in Jerusalem? 5 I tell you, Nay: but, except ye repent, ye shall all likewise perish.” -Luke 13:4-5, KJV Repentance is clearly assumed as necessary before forgiveness and salvation according to Jesus’ … Continue reading “Repentance is key to godly forgiveness”
Pushing Soul Rape Victims Back To the Perpetrators
Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ himself? Shall I then take the members of Christ and unite them with a prostitute? Never! Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.” … Continue reading “Pushing Soul Rape Victims Back To the Perpetrators”
Example of the Ninevehites
“The people of Nineveh will stand up against this generation on judgment day and condemn it, for they repented of their sins at the preaching of Jonah. Now someone greater than Jonah is here–but you refuse to repent.” -Matthew 12:41, NLT Does repentance seem necessary for forgiveness (and salvation) according to these words from Jesus … Continue reading “Example of the Ninevehites”
Why does it seem Jesus gives us the power to NOT forgive?!
***My eBook is available still on the low price of only $4.99.*** “If you forgive anyone’s sins, their sins are forgiven; if you do not forgive them, they are not forgiven.” -John 20:23, NIV If refusing to forgive someone is always a sin, how do you make sense of these words attributed to Jesus? … Continue reading “Why does it seem Jesus gives us the power to NOT forgive?!”
Calling for forgiveness or denial?
“For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed.” – John 3:20, NKJV Silence about infidelity is the same thing as avoiding the light. It says the person does not what his or her wicked deeds exposed. They have not truly embraced repentance and … Continue reading “Calling for forgiveness or denial?”
Trauma of adultery and resource reframing “forgiveness”
Yesterday, I came across an interesting article about forgiveness and trauma care from a mental health provider, Anastasia Pollock, LCMHC. It is entitled: “Why I Don’t Use the Word ‘Forgiveness’ in Trauma Therapy” Pollock writes, As soon as I say, “You don’t have to forgive,” the person usually breathes a sigh of relief. Once we … Continue reading “Trauma of adultery and resource reframing “forgiveness””
We are actually commanded to judge!
I meant that you are not to associate with anyone who claims to be a believer yet indulges in sexual sin…. It isn’t my responsibility to judge outsiders, but it certainly is your responsibility to judge those inside the church who are sinning. -I Corinthians 5:11a, 12, NLT Adultery certainly qualifies as sexual sin. What does the … Continue reading “We are actually commanded to judge!”
Nineveh’s lesson on forgiveness
“The people of Nineveh will stand up against this generation on judgment day and condemn it, for they repented of their sins at the preaching of Jonah. Now someone greater than Jonah is here–but you refuse to repent.” -Matthew 12:41, NLT Does repentance seem necessary for forgiveness (and salvation) according to these words from Jesus … Continue reading “Nineveh’s lesson on forgiveness”