It felt different when it was final. The divorce. Up until then, I think I was still praying for a repentance miracle. Magical thinking is hard to shake, at least, for me. I got the papers, and then I knew it was truly over. It just felt different. My recommendation is to plan that day. … Continue reading “Grief with the finality of it all”
Category: Grief
Such a sucker punch!
His family all tried to comfort him, but he refused to be comforted. “I will go to my grave mourning for my son,” he would say, and then he would weep. -Genesis 37:35, NLT Out of nowhere. That is how grief works sometimes. It reminds us of the loss even when we thought we were … Continue reading “Such a sucker punch!”
To be seen
13 Thereafter, Hagar used another name to refer to the Lord, who had spoken to her. She said, “You are the God who sees me.” -Genesis 16:13a, NLT To be seen! I think this is a human need: to be truly seen and known. This is what God did for Hagar in her time of distress following … Continue reading “To be seen”
Suffer with you
“Let Me Show You the Way” is an old but favorite song from Michael W. Smith. He really captures the heart of true friendship. This song by MWS speaks to what I believe is a human longing. It is a longing for a good friend who loves at a deep, heart-level. These are the friends … Continue reading “Suffer with you”
Control Temptation
23 Search me, O God, and know my heart: try me, and know my thoughts: 24 And see if there be any wicked way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting. -Psalm 139:23-24, KJV A natural temptation is to focus on controlling or directing the Cheater’s behavior. Please do your best to resist this temptation! … Continue reading “Control Temptation”
Getting Stuck
See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland. -Isaiah 43:19, NIV I am loyal. Sometimes the shadow side of this characteristic has gotten me in trouble. I have stayed in circumstances that no longer … Continue reading “Getting Stuck”
Cheaters leveraging money power
Teach those who are rich in this world not to be proud and not to trust in their money, which is so unreliable. Their trust should be in God, who richly gives us all we need for our enjoyment. -I Timothy 6:17, NLT Cheaters are often cruel. Money is just one leverage point Cheaters use … Continue reading “Cheaters leveraging money power”
An old but good song on grief
I’ve had a song playing in my head this morning. It is an old song that has a message about helping one through grief. The beauty of the song is highlighting having someone in our lives that gives us permission to feel all our feelings in our time of loss. I am grateful for people … Continue reading “An old but good song on grief”
Anniversary… Would’ve been 19 years today!
Today would have been our 19th wedding anniversary. The reality is that I hardly register this date today. Unlike when the divorce was still fresh, it does not hit me with the sadness punch that it once did. It is simply another day. In some ways, I am such a different person than the young … Continue reading “Anniversary… Would’ve been 19 years today!”
Leverage?! Really?!
The wicked flee though no one pursues…. -Proverbs 28:1a, NIV Disturbed people only see a history of cheating as leverage in a marriage. They could care less how the cheating has damaged and harmed the faithful spouse. The bigger problem for them is that they fear the faithful spouse “forever” holding it “over the head” … Continue reading “Leverage?! Really?!”