Teach those who are rich in this world not to be proud and not to trust in their money, which is so unreliable. Their trust should be in God, who richly gives us all we need for our enjoyment. -I Timothy 6:17, NLT Cheaters are often cruel. Money is just one leverage point Cheaters use … Continue reading “Cheaters leveraging money power”
Category: Grief
An old but good song on grief
I’ve had a song playing in my head this morning. It is an old song that has a message about helping one through grief. The beauty of the song is highlighting having someone in our lives that gives us permission to feel all our feelings in our time of loss. I am grateful for people … Continue reading “An old but good song on grief”
Anniversary… Would’ve been 19 years today!
Today would have been our 19th wedding anniversary. The reality is that I hardly register this date today. Unlike when the divorce was still fresh, it does not hit me with the sadness punch that it once did. It is simply another day. In some ways, I am such a different person than the young … Continue reading “Anniversary… Would’ve been 19 years today!”
Leverage?! Really?!
The wicked flee though no one pursues…. -Proverbs 28:1a, NIV Disturbed people only see a history of cheating as leverage in a marriage. They could care less how the cheating has damaged and harmed the faithful spouse. The bigger problem for them is that they fear the faithful spouse “forever” holding it “over the head” … Continue reading “Leverage?! Really?!”
Grief lingers
Grief lingers on long after forgiveness has put anger to bed. This is my experience now years removed from my divorce from a cheater. The anger is long gone. Yet I find myself feeling sad as I think of what was lost, tragically. I say tragically as it never had to happen. Yet God allows … Continue reading “Grief lingers”
Godly peace
6 Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. 7 Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. -Philippians 4:6-7a, NLT Recently, I received some disappointing news. I was passed over for promotion despite currently doing the job keeping the department … Continue reading “Godly peace”
Do you care, God?
Jesus was in the stern, sleeping on a cushion. The disciples woke him and said to him, “Teacher, don’t you care if we drown?” -Mark 4:38, NIV “Don’t you care?!” Tomorrow, I am preaching from this passage. It is the passage in Mark where Jesus and his disciples are crossing storm tossed waters (see Mark … Continue reading “Do you care, God?”
Gift of music
Lately, I’ve been digging on “I’m a Song” by Stephen Wilson Jr. It speaks about the power of music to bring healing. May this music bring cathartic healing to you as well!
Growing up
When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. -I Corinthians 13:11, NIV About a month ago, I went to my college’s class reunion. It had been twenty years since I had … Continue reading “Growing up”
Rebuilding Trust
Rebuilding trust WITH YOURSELF! If you are at all like I was, it was particularly disorienting making all the awful discoveries knowing the infidelity had been going on for some time. While it obliterated trust with one’s Cheater, it also undermined one’s own trust in self. How could I have missed this for so long? … Continue reading “Rebuilding Trust”