Today would have been our 19th wedding anniversary. The reality is that I hardly register this date today. Unlike when the divorce was still fresh, it does not hit me with the sadness punch that it once did. It is simply another day. In some ways, I am such a different person than the young … Continue reading “Anniversary… Would’ve been 19 years today!”
Category: Grief
Leverage?! Really?!
The wicked flee though no one pursues…. -Proverbs 28:1a, NIV Disturbed people only see a history of cheating as leverage in a marriage. They could care less how the cheating has damaged and harmed the faithful spouse. The bigger problem for them is that they fear the faithful spouse “forever” holding it “over the head” … Continue reading “Leverage?! Really?!”
Grief lingers
Grief lingers on long after forgiveness has put anger to bed. This is my experience now years removed from my divorce from a cheater. The anger is long gone. Yet I find myself feeling sad as I think of what was lost, tragically. I say tragically as it never had to happen. Yet God allows … Continue reading “Grief lingers”
Godly peace
6 Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done. 7 Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. -Philippians 4:6-7a, NLT Recently, I received some disappointing news. I was passed over for promotion despite currently doing the job keeping the department … Continue reading “Godly peace”
Do you care, God?
Jesus was in the stern, sleeping on a cushion. The disciples woke him and said to him, “Teacher, don’t you care if we drown?” -Mark 4:38, NIV “Don’t you care?!” Tomorrow, I am preaching from this passage. It is the passage in Mark where Jesus and his disciples are crossing storm tossed waters (see Mark … Continue reading “Do you care, God?”
Gift of music
Lately, I’ve been digging on “I’m a Song” by Stephen Wilson Jr. It speaks about the power of music to bring healing. May this music bring cathartic healing to you as well!
Growing up
When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. -I Corinthians 13:11, NIV About a month ago, I went to my college’s class reunion. It had been twenty years since I had … Continue reading “Growing up”
Rebuilding Trust
Rebuilding trust WITH YOURSELF! If you are at all like I was, it was particularly disorienting making all the awful discoveries knowing the infidelity had been going on for some time. While it obliterated trust with one’s Cheater, it also undermined one’s own trust in self. How could I have missed this for so long? … Continue reading “Rebuilding Trust”
Intangible Losses
20 You have allowed me to suffer much hardship, but you will restore me to life again and lift me up from the depths of the earth. 21 You will restore me to even greater honor and comfort me once again. -Psalm 71:20-21, NLT Intangible Losses Some of the losses that come with divorcing your Cheater are … Continue reading “Intangible Losses”
Odd ripples
When they saw Job from a distance, they scarcely recognized him. Wailing loudly, they tore their robes and threw dust into the air over their heads to show their grief. -Job 2:12, NLT A shared history is an underestimated loss in the story of a divorce from a Cheater. It creates odd ripples of grief. … Continue reading “Odd ripples”