20 You have allowed me to suffer much hardship, but you will restore me to life again and lift me up from the depths of the earth. 21 You will restore me to even greater honor and comfort me once again. -Psalm 71:20-21, NLT Intangible Losses Some of the losses that come with divorcing your Cheater are … Continue reading “Intangible Losses”
Category: Grief
Odd ripples
When they saw Job from a distance, they scarcely recognized him. Wailing loudly, they tore their robes and threw dust into the air over their heads to show their grief. -Job 2:12, NLT A shared history is an underestimated loss in the story of a divorce from a Cheater. It creates odd ripples of grief. … Continue reading “Odd ripples”
On Temporary Discomfort
For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. -2 Corinthians 4:17, NIV Weight training in equipment has provided a life lesson: Pressing into the discomfort leads to joy afterwards! When you have over 700lbs/317kg hanging over you, pressure starts building in the head with … Continue reading “On Temporary Discomfort”
Conflicted Feelings at Reunion
I wrote this a few years ago reflecting on a college reunion. In fact, this week will be my 20th Reunion! Today, I thankfully feel less entwined with those contrasting feelings since I have been back to the city of my alma mater a few more times with Mrs. DM. Obviously, a version of this … Continue reading “Conflicted Feelings at Reunion”
Ripples still ongoing
Faithful are the wounds of a friend; but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful. -Proverbs 27:6, KJV People who have not lived the experience might not understand the incredible devastation cheating inflicts on faithful spouses. Years can pass and the losses can come up in a micro-second. A song plays. A Facebook post is … Continue reading “Ripples still ongoing”
No, hanging out with Cheater is NOT okay!
“I meant that you are not to associate with anyone who claims to be a believer yet indulges in sexual sin, or is greedy, or worships idols, or is abusive, or is a drunkard, or cheats people. Don’t even eat with such people.” -I Corinthians 5:11, NLT One of the many pains associated with discovering … Continue reading “No, hanging out with Cheater is NOT okay!”
Painful discard
He was despised and rejected by mankind, a man of suffering, and familiar with pain. Like one from whom people hide their faces he was despised, and we held him in low esteem. -Isaiah 53:3, NIV The divorce discard is painful. Some Cheaters cling to their marriage, and other Cheaters complete the rejection by filing for divorce. … Continue reading “Painful discard”
Grief gets us stuck sometimes
His family all tried to comfort him, but he refused to be comforted. “I will go to my grave mourning for my son,” he would say, and then he would weep. -Genesis 37:35, NLT Grief gets us stuck sometimes. It is a lot of loss all at once to discover your spouse’s double-life. You have … Continue reading “Grief gets us stuck sometimes”
Just a photo
It was just a photo. I saw a picture of an old “friend” who chose my Cheater and turned against me in the end. One photo brought back all sorts of feelings. Mostly, it brought back grief. My last contact with this couple was a text from the husband on the day that my divorce … Continue reading “Just a photo”
Unwanted–initially–path
“…when you are old you will stretch out your hands, and someone else will dress you and lead you where you do not want to go.” -John 21:18b, NIV Unfortunately, I was the first. Somehow, my huge family had never experienced a divorce on either side of the immediate family. But I became the first … Continue reading “Unwanted–initially–path”