I wonder. I wonder how many faithful fathers never got to meet their children. The cheater decided she rather abort than carry the child to term. I wonder. No statistics exist on this matter. So, I wonder. I am sure it happens. Cheaters are famous for dodging responsibility. A child is a huge responsibility. This … Continue reading “Adultery, abortion, and divorce”
Category: Grief
Grief ambushes
I am worn out from my groaning. All night long I flood my bed with weeping and drench my couch with tears. -Psalm 6:6, NIV Yesterday, grief surprised me. This wasn’t grief over my first marriage. It was grief over a lost mentor and true friend. He died in a car accident last year. I … Continue reading “Grief ambushes”
3 Things Pastors Need To Know About Adultery
-3 THINGS YOU NEED TO KNOW ABOUT ADULTERY- 1. ADULTERY IS SOUL RAPE! The Bible is clear about the principle about how a married couple is no longer two individuals in a spiritual sense but are actually one (see Genesis 2:24, Matthew 19:6, I Corinthians 6:15-18, etc). Following from this oneness principle of marriage, any … Continue reading “3 Things Pastors Need To Know About Adultery”
Not pure evil and that is why it hurts so much!
So God created man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he them. -Genesis 1:27, KJV Divorcing a cheater would not hurt as much if she was pure evil. That is my opinion. I am not saying what she did was anything less than evil. That is pure … Continue reading “Not pure evil and that is why it hurts so much!”
On preferring “to be imagining things”
Discovering you spouse has been committing adultery is an incredibly traumatic experience. -You want to be wrong–even crazy is preferable to the real traumatic mess this actually is! -You want your world NOT to be upended and obliterated like it is. -In short, you want to wake up from this nightmare. This is grief and … Continue reading “On preferring “to be imagining things””
Wanted.
Even before he made the world, God loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in his eyes. -Ephesians 1:4, NLT I love the feeling of being “wanted” or “needed” by someone. It is the feeling of knowing your love and attention are welcomed and desired. How about you? I … Continue reading “Wanted.”
Community Fall Out
If a man be found lying with a woman married to an husband, then they shall both of them die, both the man that lay with the woman, and the woman: so shalt thou put away evil from Israel. -Deuteronomy 22:22, KJV Too often, adultery is treated as a private matter between the faithful … Continue reading “Community Fall Out”
Anger fades with time and work
God is a just judge, And God is angry with the wicked every day. -Psalm 7:11, NKJV Anger is a healthy, godly response to adultery. I will say that again: Anger is a healthy, godly response to adultery. When we do not feel angry over such injustice and wickedness, something is seriously wrong with our walk with the Lord. He is angry … Continue reading “Anger fades with time and work”
New Book Resource: UNFOLD
Dear Readers, Recently, I was contacted by a blog reader who wrote a book about her experience. I asked her to write up a little blurb about her book and promised to post it on my website. Below it a link to her book (just click on the book image) and the little blurb she … Continue reading “New Book Resource: UNFOLD”
Unspoken.
Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep. -Romans 12:15, KJV When divorce is condemned as a whole from the pulpit, this means all divorce is condemned. Left unspoken is the acknowledgement of those who find themselves divorced against their will and those divorced because they married an abusive, adulterous spouse. Because those … Continue reading “Unspoken.”