Michael wrote: This weekend I had a conversation with a Christian friend that really bothered me. It’s days later and I’m still bothered, hurt by his comments. Long story short, we got onto the topic of my divorce. Normally, I avoid this topic with this specific person. He is the one who told me about … Continue reading “Mailbag: This weekend I had a conversation with a Christian “friend”…”
Category: Reconciliation
Mismatched Values
Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? -2 Corinthians 6:14, KJV Whether one is abandoned or cheated on or both, the reality for faithful spouses is as stark as this verse from 2 Corinthians paints it. Light cannot fellowship with … Continue reading “Mismatched Values”
Signs of Real Repentance
And Zacchaeus stood, and said unto the Lord; “Behold, Lord, the half of my goods I give to the poor; and if I have taken any thing from any man by false accusation, I restore him fourfold.” -Luke 19:8, KJV (quotation marks added) So, you think your cheater has hit rock bottom and is truly … Continue reading “Signs of Real Repentance”
“Don’t throw away your marriage” advice
And the man that committeth adultery with another man’s wife, even he that committeth adultery with his neighbour’s wife, the adulterer and the adulteress shall surely be put to death. -Leviticus 20:10, KJV “Don’t throw away your marriage over this,” the well-meaning pastor tells the sobbing faithful spouse upon discovery of the adulterous double life … Continue reading ““Don’t throw away your marriage” advice”
True Repentance: It’s Obvious!
“What happens with leaders often in these situations is that they give you one paragraph of acknowledgement of wrong, and 6 paragraphs of how they are a victim. If I’m counselling an adulterous man, and he sits in front of me and all he talks about is his wife, I know that man is far … Continue reading “True Repentance: It’s Obvious!”
“Why Not Be Wronged?” Wrongful Mindset
The very fact that you have lawsuits among you means you have been completely defeated already. Why not rather be wronged? Why not rather be cheated? -I Corinthians 6:7, NIV Any application of this Scripture as a way to hide and absolve a cheater is a gross misapplication of this text. In just two verses … Continue reading ““Why Not Be Wronged?” Wrongful Mindset”
Lesson: Dating Two At A Time Was And Is Wrong!
“I can hardly believe the report about the sexual immorality going on among you—something that even pagans don’t do.” -I Corinthians 5:1a, NLT I played four years of collegiate-level football at a small liberal arts college in Minnesota. It was a good experience for the relationships I developed over those years even though we weren’t … Continue reading “Lesson: Dating Two At A Time Was And Is Wrong!”
An Exchange Regarding Assuming Divorce
Some Pharisees came and tried to trap him with this question: “Should a man be allowed to divorce his wife for just any reason?” -Matthew 19:3, NLT On Monday, I shared a post about how certain lines of questioning cross the line (click here). This inspired the following comment from OKRickety, which I plan on … Continue reading “An Exchange Regarding Assuming Divorce”
Stop Swigging Salt Water!
So Moses brought Israel from the Red sea, and they went out into the wilderness of Shur; and they went three days in the wilderness, and found no water. And when they came to Marah, they could not drink of the waters of Marah, for they were bitter: therefore the name of it was called … Continue reading “Stop Swigging Salt Water!”
On the “Being Unhappy” Reason For Divorce
“But I say that a man who divorces his wife, unless she has been unfaithful, causes her to commit adultery. And anyone who marries a divorced woman also commits adultery.” -Matthew 5:32, NLT Part of the justification cheaters often use to blame-shift upon faithful spouses is the charge of being unhappy in the marriage. Let’s … Continue reading “On the “Being Unhappy” Reason For Divorce”