“This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth and says, ‘I’ve done nothing wrong.’” -Proverbs 30:20, NIV This proverb is true for all genders as it comes to cheating. Cheaters have no shame. I was thinking about the phenomenon of Cheaters not connecting the dots as it comes to … Continue reading “So cut off”
Category: Sin
So called “Advice”
After the Lord had said these things to Job, he said to Eliphaz the Temanite, “I am angry with you and your two friends, because you have not spoken the truth about me, as my servant Job has. -Job 42:7, NIV Ever had that “friend” who got furious with you because you did not do whatever they told … Continue reading “So called “Advice””
Nary an apology!
When cheating happens, it damages more than just the marriage. It also destroys “friendships” as well. I have no problem questioning how Christian someone is who supports a Cheater over the faithful spouse while fully knowing of the infidelity. Minimally, they are NOT friendship material for the faithful spouse. Further, such people have different values … Continue reading “Nary an apology!”
About power
25 Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. 26 Not so with you.” -Matthew 20:25-26a, NIV Cheaters lie to hold power over faithful spouses. “Knowledge is power” as the saying goes. This means Cheaters are careful to control who has … Continue reading “About power”
But I did burn his evening meal…
“But I DID burn his evening meal,” says battered wife. What happens when your Cheater does actually touch on a real complaint about you? Most of us are rather introspective individuals as faithful spouses. We are probably painfully aware of our own faults and failures. So, it is especially disorienting in this time when your … Continue reading “But I did burn his evening meal…”
No forgiveness without wrongs acknowledged
“If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” -I John 1:9, KJV What good is forgiveness to someone who does not think he or she did anything wrong? It is worthless. They are not in bondage to a conscience warning them … Continue reading “No forgiveness without wrongs acknowledged”
Know no shame
But the Lord is still there in the city, and he does no wrong. Day by day he hands down justice, and he does not fail. But the wicked know no shame. -Zephaniah 3:5, NLT Cheaters often have no shame. Like the wicked in this passage, they continue on their path of destruction without a second thought … Continue reading “Know no shame”
On “Sin-Leveling”
If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. -I John 1:8, NIV “Sin-Leveling” is an argument that trades on fallacious reasoning. The argument goes that all sin is equal or on the same “level.” Your lie about how how much you spent on your last trip to … Continue reading “On “Sin-Leveling””
Marriage Miracles More Sexy
For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven. … A time to scatter stones and a time to gather stones. A time to embrace and a time to turn away. -Ecclesiastes 3:1,5, NLT Purveying marriage miracles is more sexy than facing natural consequences. I feel this with this ministry. It … Continue reading “Marriage Miracles More Sexy”
Usually so much worse!
So, your Cheater cops to an “emotional affair” after you discovered compromising messages and confronted them. Are you sure that’s all it was?! I know we want to believe that was all it was. That was where I was at in my first marriage for a long time. I did not want to believe it … Continue reading “Usually so much worse!”