Circle of friends

“You could do so much better than him,” says Enabler. It starts with their “friends.” Cheaters often surround themselves with “friends” who are not supportive of their marriage. In fact, they encourage damaging behavior and contempt for the faithful spouse. It should not shock us, faithful spouses, when we learn that these “friends” were covering … Continue reading “Circle of friends”

Cheater-speak: “I’m a good Christian.”

 Anyone who continues to live in him will not sin. But anyone who keeps on sinning does not know him or understand who he is. -I John 3:6, NLT “I’m a good Christian,” declares deceived Cheater. Some might make this statement to seek validation from you or others. They are saying it as a test … Continue reading “Cheater-speak: “I’m a good Christian.””

Cheater-Speak: “I feel like God is calling me to….”

2 And he said, “Take now thy son, thine only son Isaac, whom thou lovest, and get thee into the land of Moriah; and offer him there for a burnt offering upon one of the mountains which I will tell thee of.” Genesis 22:2, KJV Cheaters are engaging in self-deception when they decide God is calling … Continue reading “Cheater-Speak: “I feel like God is calling me to….””

Forgiveness without admission of wrongdoing?

Peter’s words pierced their hearts, and they said to him and to the other apostles, “Brothers, what should we do?” Peter replied, “Each of you must repent of your sins and turn to God….” -Acts 2:37-38a, NLT Remember how Jesus asked God to forgive those crucifying him from the cross (see Luke 23:34)? These verses … Continue reading “Forgiveness without admission of wrongdoing?”

Pro-Tip: Do not engage with “deserving it” fools

A sage trying to work things out with a fool     gets only scorn and sarcasm for his trouble. -Proverbs 29:9, THE MESSAGE Arguing Over Why You “Deserved It” This is a wasted argument. It is like talking with someone with your face still bleeding and them asking you what you did to deserve having your … Continue reading “Pro-Tip: Do not engage with “deserving it” fools”

“Exit Affair” Minimizing Label

“You shall not commit adultery.” -Exodus 20:14, NKJV Does it make it any less sinful to cheat if the marriage is troubled? The correct answer to this is “No.” Adultery is adultery. Sin is sin. Circumstances around the sin do not matter as far as determining if the behavior is sin or not. I see … Continue reading ““Exit Affair” Minimizing Label”

Philip Yancey Confesses Near Decade Affair

To my great shame, I confess that for eight years I willfully engaged in a sinful affair with a married woman. My conduct defied everything that I believe about marriage. It was also totally inconsistent with my faith and my writings and caused deep pain for her husband and both of our families. -Philip Yancey … Continue reading “Philip Yancey Confesses Near Decade Affair”