But anyone who hears my teaching and doesn’t obey it is foolish, like a person who builds a house on sand. -Matthew 7:26, NLT We all know it is a sand foundation. This is the truth of trying to rebuild a marriage with the infidelity left unaddressed or treated as a “minor” problem. The marriage … Continue reading “Beware of sand foundations!”
Category: Sin
Shallow people
“This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth and says, ‘I’ve done nothing wrong.’” -Proverbs 30:20, NIV This verse could easily be said of cheating men as well. They all have a shallow understanding of “love.” The marriage relationship is turned into an exchange rather than a commitment. So, … Continue reading “Shallow people”
Disconnected Professions
Another thing you do: You flood the Lord’s altar with tears. You weep and wail because he no longer looks with favor on your offerings or accepts them with pleasure from your hands. You ask, “Why?” -Malachi 2:13-14a, NIV The disconnect between what some “Christians” say and do is astounding: -A cheater apologist can talk about righteous living while turning a … Continue reading “Disconnected Professions”
Adultery is NOT a footnote!
Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral. -Hebrews 13:4, NIV How can you miss it that bad?! How can someone read and understand the Bible yet treat adultery as a “regrettable footnote” to a marriage ending? It astounds me … Continue reading “Adultery is NOT a footnote!”
Loophole? OT Polygamy.
“I gave your master’s house to you, and your master’s wives into your arms. I gave you all Israel and Judah. And if all this had been too little, I would have given you even more.” -2 Samuel 12:8, NIV What do we make of God saying that He would have given King David more … Continue reading “Loophole? OT Polygamy.”
Letter re:Doug Weiss’ Divorce
Recently, Chump Lady posted on Doug Weiss’ divorce and then sudden engagement to Joni Lamb (of the Christian Daystar broadcasting fame). Dr. Doug Weiss treats “sex addiction” and claims to be in recovery from sex addiction for over 30 years. While this is important information to know for context, this post is not so much … Continue reading “Letter re:Doug Weiss’ Divorce”
Privilege says, “Move on!”
“You need to move on,” says the Privileged. When something as traumatic as a surviving the adultery and divorce from a cheater happens, you are forever marked. Over time, I have found the scars fade. However, they will always be there. People pushing for one to “move on” are pushing denial of these scars. It … Continue reading “Privilege says, “Move on!””
“Starter Marriage” Nonsense
And he said, “‘This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one.’” -Matthew 19:5, NLT When my first marriage was falling apart, I remember someone bringing up the idea of “starter marriages.” The idea is one where the first marriage is simply … Continue reading ““Starter Marriage” Nonsense”
“What about their soul?”
“What about their soul? You could win them back by how you respond,” says well-meaning, naive Christian. This burden is unfair. There is enough pressure on faithful spouses. They don’t need more spiritual shaming. Faithful spouses are Jesus. They do not save souls. Only Jesus can do this. It is spiritually unhealthy to suggest otherwise. Just … Continue reading ““What about their soul?””
Discern by their fruit
A good tree produces good fruit, and a bad tree produces bad fruit. …Yes, just as you can identify a tree by its fruit, so you can identify people by their actions. -Matthew 7:17, 20, NLT When talking about love, I would recommend to look at actions and not just words. Cheaters will say all … Continue reading “Discern by their fruit”