Category: Theology of divorce

Choosing to divorce a cheater is NOT vengeful!

And Joseph her husband, being a righteous man and not wanting to disgrace her, planned [to divorce her] secretly. -Matthew 1:19, NASB (footnoted alternate translation used in brackets) Do we consider a rape victim “hurt and vengeful” for choosing to have her rapist prosecuted for his crime? I wouldn’t. It is a matter of justice … Continue reading “Choosing to divorce a cheater is NOT vengeful!”

Commentary on cheaters claiming to be Christians

“Not everyone who says to me, ‘Lord, Lord,’ will enter the kingdom of heaven, but only the one who does the will of my Father who is in heaven….Then I will tell them plainly, ‘I never knew you. Away from me, you evildoers!’ -Matthew 7:21, 23, NIV Anyone who continues to live in him will … Continue reading “Commentary on cheaters claiming to be Christians”

David Clarke, Ph.D. Online Resource

While wondering on the internet looking for resources from David Clarke, PhD, I stumbled upon his website (click here). These past few days I have been listening to his podcast. He has some good things to say in those podcasts. Clarke is not a wimpy Christian counselor. He does not let cheaters off the hook … Continue reading “David Clarke, Ph.D. Online Resource”

Can you “blow up” what has already been blown up?

Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Can you “blow up” what has already been blown up? This is a rhetorical question. My point is that divorce after adultery is a situation following such a “blow up” of the family. The adulterous spouse blew up the family with their sins. A faithful spouse divorcing … Continue reading “Can you “blow up” what has already been blown up?”

Adultery caused the marriage rift; NOT its confession!

Don’t you realize that your bodies are actually parts of Christ? Should a man take his body, which is part of Christ, and join it to a prostitute? Never! And don’t you realize that if a man joins himself to a prostitute, he becomes one body with her? For the Scriptures say, “The two are … Continue reading “Adultery caused the marriage rift; NOT its confession!”

Remember God has you through this!

Fear of man will prove to be a snare,     but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe. -Proverbs 29:25, NIV People will likely talk. Sure. Even–maybe especially–“Christian” people with issues with you getting a divorce from your cheater. However… Do not allow the “fear of man” to paralyze you. That fear is what will get you snared in … Continue reading “Remember God has you through this!”

Cheater claims “toxic marriage”

Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Did I miss something? When I read this verse–part of the Ten Commandments–I don’t see where it says, “Thou shalt not commit adultery unless [you believe] your marriage is a toxic relationship.” I don’t see it because it is NOT there! This is an especially lame cheater excuse or … Continue reading “Cheater claims “toxic marriage””

What a decade! Happy New Year!!!

What a decade the 2010’s were for me! I never would have scripted these years for me in the way they went down. However, I am grateful for the ending days of that decade. At the start, I was still finishing up my seminary education at Yale while married to my cheater. The next couple … Continue reading “What a decade! Happy New Year!!!”

Adulteress: “I am not divorcing you because of him [Other Man].”

“I am not divorcing you because of him [Other Man].” -Adulteress Busted. And then the cheater busts out this mind messing statement. What is the cheater doing by making such a statement? They are doing several things. All them are bad, of course. In general, it is a particularly heinous thing for a cheater to say after … Continue reading “Adulteress: “I am not divorcing you because of him [Other Man].””