But if the unbelieving depart, let him depart. A brother or a sister is not under bondage in such cases: but God hath called us to peace. -I Corinthians 7:15, KJV Let the Cheater leave! If a Cheater is literally hell-bent on denying Christ by their actions, let them. This is on them. I see … Continue reading “Let them leave AND move on!”
Category: Theology of divorce
But the cost! Divorce scare tactics.
For the love of money is the root of all evil: which while some coveted after, they have erred from the faith, and pierced themselves through with many sorrows. -I Timothy 6:10, KJV A popular Christian curriculum for people going through divorce would regularly try to dissuade people from divorcing by pointing out the financial … Continue reading “But the cost! Divorce scare tactics.”
Need to preach about righteous divorces
Sharing only testimonies of reconciled and restored marriages following adultery… …feeds false hope in “reconciliation” for faithful spouses dealing with unrepentant cheaters. Show of hands. How many here thought their marriage was going to “make it” and then you would have a testimony about marriage reconciliation to share with others? I know I did. The … Continue reading “Need to preach about righteous divorces”
Still making demands?
If your cheater is still making demands…. …then you can be assured that they are not really sorry about cheating and did not really “get” the devastation of their sin against you. A person who cheats and grasps how awful a betrayal it is will not then turn on the faithful party to make relationship … Continue reading “Still making demands?”
The real choice
Even a faithful spouse “choosing” to divorce their cheater is really not the choice. They had chosen to be married for life to a person who left all others. However, that person decided to change things. They chose adultery. That just left bad options for the faithful spouse. The faithful spouse choosing divorce is a person … Continue reading “The real choice”
Souls are eternal, not marriages.
For in the resurrection they neither marry, nor are given in marriage, but are as the angels of God in heaven. -Matthew 22:30, KJV This verse is very clear. Jesus tells us human marriage does not endure in heaven. Since this is true, spiritual counsel ought to take this into account. The priority ought to … Continue reading “Souls are eternal, not marriages.”
Marriage Miracles More Sexy
For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven. … A time to scatter stones and a time to gather stones. A time to embrace and a time to turn away. -Ecclesiastes 3:1,5, NLT Purveying marriage miracles is more sexy than facing natural consequences. I feel this with this ministry. It … Continue reading “Marriage Miracles More Sexy”
Bad Enough FOR YOU!
Your Cheater does not need to be a total monster in order to be bad for you. I suspect most Cheaters (if not all) have some “redeeming” qualities about themselves. If they didn’t, we probably never would have married them in the first place. They are mix–like all of us–of good and bad traits. But … Continue reading “Bad Enough FOR YOU!”
Reject Divorce Shame!
Then Joseph her husband, being a just man, and not willing to make her a public example, was minded to put her away [i.e. divorce her] privily. -Matthew 1:19, KJV If you grew up in a church where divorce was taught as always wrong, you may find it hard to NOT internalize divorce shame and stigma. … Continue reading “Reject Divorce Shame!”
If they in-laws are saying…
Give honor to marriage, and remain faithful to one another in marriage. God will surely judge people who are immoral and those who commit adultery. -Hebrews 13:4, NLT If your in-laws are saying cheating behavior is normal, then that tells you a lot! Your Cheater was raised in this environment. It is what your Cheater … Continue reading “If they in-laws are saying…”