“Rebuke your mother, rebuke her, for she is not my wife, and I am not her husband. Let her remove the adulterous look from her face and the unfaithfulness from between her breasts.” -Hosea 2:2, NIV Pastors and other Christian counselors have a tendency to advocate for gentler confrontation with female cheaters. It is a kid gloves … Continue reading ““Kid” glove approach because the cheater is a woman”
Author: Divorce Minister
Lack of self-esteem? Really?!
“This is the way of an adulterous woman: She eats and wipes her mouth and says, ‘I’ve done nothing wrong.’” -Proverbs 30:20, NIV While a cheater might blame their cheating on a lack of self-esteem, I find this excuse rather lame. They “esteemed” themselves so much that they took or gave what did not belong … Continue reading “Lack of self-esteem? Really?!”
The pain of the discard
He was despised and rejected by mankind, a man of suffering, and familiar with pain. Like one from whom people hide their faces he was despised, and we held him in low esteem.- -Isaiah 53:3, NIV The divorce discard is painful. Some cheaters cling to their marriage, and other cheaters complete the rejection by filing for divorce. … Continue reading “The pain of the discard”
Let’s call it what it is: Adultery!
“Thou shalt not commit adultery.” -Exodus 20:14, KJV Adultery is… “voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and someone other than his or her lawful spouse.” -from dictionary.com Cheaters are all about making up their own private definitions of adultery or cheating. Those “definitions” exist to “excuse” inexcusable, sinful behavior. A cheater might say such … Continue reading “Let’s call it what it is: Adultery!”
Podcast Resource About Clergy Sexual Abuse
Today’s post is simply a link to a very good podcast message.Julie Roys interviews Dr. Diane Langberg on the topic of Clergy Sexual Abuse of adults. While I do not agree with everything Dr. Langberg says, I appreciate the interview. For example, one point of disagreement is over whether or not to judge repentance. Sometimes … Continue reading “Podcast Resource About Clergy Sexual Abuse”
Computer issues… no new post today
No new post today due to my computer acting up just as I was writing. Hopefully, I will be up and writing tomorrow.
An ode to self-respect: “Babe” by Sugerland
I admire those faithful spouses who were able to enforce their boundaries with “just” one revelation of infidelity. These rare souls know they deserve to be treated better. And they have no problems enforcing their “deal-breakers” as in “You cheat on me, and we are over. Period.” And for those who come here that are … Continue reading “An ode to self-respect: “Babe” by Sugerland”
Preparing for that first, post-infidelity discovery couple’s session
Cheating is exposed. Now, the cheater is willing to go to couples therapy and rebuild what the cheater destroyed. How does a faithful spouse approach such sessions with a Christian couples counselor? 1. Remember you have choices here. Did you choose this counselor? What do you know about him or her? If this person is … Continue reading “Preparing for that first, post-infidelity discovery couple’s session”
God, you MUST forgive me? Really?!
“The tax collector stood alone in a corner, away from the Holy Place, and covered his face in his hands, feeling that he was unworthy even to look up to God. Beating his breast, he sobbed with brokenness and tears saying, ‘God, please, in your mercy and because of the blood sacrifice, forgive me, for I am … Continue reading “God, you MUST forgive me? Really?!”
Jesus responded with a statement about salvation.
But Zacchaeus stood up and said to the Lord, “Look, Lord! Here and now I give half of my possessions to the poor, and if I have cheated anybody out of anything, I will pay back four times the amount.” Jesus said to him, “Today salvation has come to this house, because this man, too, is a son … Continue reading “Jesus responded with a statement about salvation.”