Author: Divorce Minister

Allowed in God’s Presence

Who is allowed into God’s presence? The Psalmist answers this way: Those who despise flagrant sinners,     and honor the faithful followers of the Lord,     and keep their promises even when it hurts. -Psalm 15:4, NLT If we believe the Bible and the Psalmist here, this means those who celebrate the adulterous will not enter God’s presence. … Continue reading “Allowed in God’s Presence”

Preying on your desperation

After discovering infidelity, I bet many of us went into overdrive to figure out how to “save” our marriages. It is the rare faithful spouse who refuses to demean themselves further by chasing after the cheater (and the marriage) immediately. Especially, as a Christian, I think it is rare to level consequences at the start … Continue reading “Preying on your desperation”

Remember: God’s got you!

Fear of man will prove to be a snare,     but whoever trusts in the Lord is kept safe. -Proverbs 29:25, NIV People will likely talk. Sure. Even–maybe especially–“Christian” people with issues with you getting a divorce from your cheater. However… Do not allow the “fear of man” to paralyze you. That fear is what will get you snared in … Continue reading “Remember: God’s got you!”

When a cheater claims the marriage was “toxic”

Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV Did I miss something? When I read this verse–part of the Ten Commandments–I don’t see where it says, “Thou shalt not commit adultery unless [you believe] your marriage is a toxic relationship.” I don’t see it because it is NOT there! This is an especially lame cheater excuse or … Continue reading “When a cheater claims the marriage was “toxic””

Worthless Words

Some people make cutting remarks, but the words of the wise bring healing. -Proverbs 12:18, NLT Please, faithful spouse, do not rely upon the words of your cheater for your identity (or healing)! A cheater is a liar as one cannot cheat without lying. This calls all their words into question. Knowing this about them … Continue reading “Worthless Words”

Godly and reasonable to expect the cheating to stop!

Let her remove the adulterous look from her face     and the unfaithfulness from between her breasts. -Hosea 2:2b, NIV Restored, godly marriages resurrected after the destruction of adultery are rare. Cheaters would have to change character for this to happen. Such change is painful and hard. That is not the path most cheaters take. Shortcuts are … Continue reading “Godly and reasonable to expect the cheating to stop!”

Resource on (NOT) “having” to forgive

An alert reader sent me an article yesterday on the topic of forgiveness. It is entitled, “Do I Have To Forgive? (The Answer Might Surprise You).” The article tackles the abusive use of the forgiveness commands by Jesus and points out the consistent need for repentance for godly forgiveness (as I teach on this blog). … Continue reading “Resource on (NOT) “having” to forgive”

Adultery is always sin!

Thou shalt not commit adultery. -Exodus 20:14, KJV So much energy is often spent trying to “understand” why a cheater cheated. Such energy–especially in churches–is better spent teaching what the Bible teaches–namely, adultery is ALWAYS unacceptable. Circumstances matter not. Adultery is ALWAYS sin. I wonder how many marriages would have been saved this trauma (and … Continue reading “Adultery is always sin!”

“Fireproof” teaches toleration and enabling of marital infidelity!

For a time is coming when people will no longer listen to sound and wholesome teaching. They will follow their own desires and will look for teachers who will tell them whatever their itching ears want to hear. – 2 Timothy 4:3, NLT Around 2010, a major marital craze went through the American, evangelical church … Continue reading ““Fireproof” teaches toleration and enabling of marital infidelity!”